Purple Crayon Factory

Keep in Touch While Blog is Inactive

2007-12-21T12:38:00.000-06:00

Hello, I am putting this blog on hiatus in order to turn more of my attention to Purple Crayon Factory and MN Women In Networking (WIN). Both organizations have great e-newsletters with articles and updates. Please keep in touch by signing up for these free e-newsletters: PCF's monthly newsletter (Purple Crayon Factory) and Connect (MN Women In Networking).

Refreshing workshops, events and services support you to
create the life you want with resources you have.

Encouraging one another’s professional growth and business success in the Twin Cities.

Thank you for your continued interest and support.

I wish for you only the best,
Teresa Thomas-Carroll

Director, Purple Crayon Factory and MN Women In Networking (WIN)
612-722-6931
teresa@purplecrayonfactory.com
info@mnwin.org

Taking yourself off the hook

2007-12-21T12:24:00.000-06:00

I'm taking myself off the hook for keeping up this blog. When I have blogged, I've enjoyed it but haven't made the time and motivation to post regularly. It's been a small weight nagging at me, "you should be blogging". I'd been thinking of giving it up but then I was in a teleclass offered by Deborah Gallant of WebPowerTools and Lynn Grodzki of Private Practice Success. In the class, Deborah stated that if you're not blogging at least every other day and aren't seeing a result of your blogging, then why have a blog? Hearing this was exactly what I needed. Concrete input that it isn't currently a fit for me. It feels like a relief to let this go. I can always re-examine in the future. But for now, I'm already feeling some energy come back to me as I let this go in order to have more time to devote to other areas of business, especially now that I am also coordinating MN Women In Networking in addition to Purple Crayon Factory. I'll create just one more post in order to help us keep in touch.

What could you allow yourself to be off the hook?

WIN rocks!

2007-11-14T10:06:00.000-06:00

If you don't already know about WIN (Women In Networking), I can't wait to tell the world about it and am happy to answer any questions and take suggestions. As of December, I'll officially be the director for Women In Networking (WIN).

Yesterday's event featured Kathleen Watson from Client Connections. She presented on the top ten networking oopses and strategies to avoid them. She helped us become more confident and aware about how to approach networking. I love that she shared the personal "oopses" from her own experience. Twice, I stumbled into making an oops that must be number 11 on the list (calling someone the wrong name--so sorry! I'm much better with faces than names--I'll definitely work on that.).

I've been a presenter at WIN in the past and had been struck by the wonderful energy of the group. But now I get to know these women even better, help them make connections (my passion and purpose!) and apply my creative energy toward coordinating awesome networking events. Can you tell I'm excited?!

I'll keep you posted!

Unexpected Reminders of Why

2007-10-15T14:18:00.000-05:00

There are so many reasons we choose our paths. Some of them are obvious (making an income, following our interests, making a difference) and some are less obvious but are what keep us motivated and reminded what makes our lives meaningful. Following the September Small Business Marketing Jam, Taiha Wagner (Mom on the Go) and I received warm feedback not only immediately following the event but well after. Notes like this remind us why we do what we do (used with permission):

"It was a pleasant surprise to be so welcomed at an event that I have never before attended. It was an even more pleasant surprise to receive the support and suggestions from other attendees to reach for my potential "just because I can".

I thought I would feel out of my element since I have not yet started any business, but am just reaching out for ideas. The group activities were enlightening and encouraging as to my gifts and direction. Every attendee really is there as a team member and cheerleader.

Your efforts at creating a professional network are truly outstanding. I say this because I do not think of myself as a professional, yet was treated with respect as an equal to the other professional women in attendance. It dawned on me that they are women helping women and that is the motivating factor as well as the feeling of accomplishment." --Bonita

Think about the unexpected reminders that you get about the value of what you offer. It might be a kind note, word or a request for you to do something again (ranging from making a special recipe, to a warm hug, to a referral). Take a moment to let it sink in and accept the recognition that you are unique and valuable for who you are and the qualities you embed in what you offer.

Difficult Relationships

2007-10-15T13:20:00.000-05:00

Is someone driving you crazy? How do you deal with it and maintain your integrity? Often times our most difficult relationships pull out the worst in us, making the relationship all the more challenging.

I'm the type of person who wants to know the "why" behind everything. (I can only imagine how tiresome I must have been as a toddler once I learned that word.) Whenever someone belittled, manipulated or bullied me, rather than enforce my boundaries I'd try to figure out the underlying reasons or wonder if I could have somehow brought it upon myself. After fifteen years, something my husband has been trying to help me learn is finally sinking in. He has always told me that often it is just not worth trying to figure out why someone is difficult or doesn't treat you right. He explained that even if I did find out all the reasons, it wouldn't make it okay and that the bottom line is to be treated respectfully.

I am now much better at setting boundaries in difficult relationships but am still learning.

How about you? What are you learning about working through or exiting difficult relationships?

Our November newsletter reflection is about finding strategies to deal with difficult relationships . It includes a link to a really nice article on this subject from our guest columnist, Cari Vollmer, The Life On Track Expert.

Finding hope and joy by "shaping" the world

2007-09-12T14:23:00.000-05:00

My StarTrib horoscope yesterday was right on when it said, "You are not one to ask, 'What is this world coming to?' because you're too involved in shaping it. This afternoon you'll be shaping it ito something that brings you joy." I absolutely love helping to create and being around the energy of people connecting in meaningful ways. I was facilitating a Networking Factory© for MN Women In Networking. The room was full of dynamic business women from a wide range of businesses. The networking was unusual, fun and got them to talk to each other in ways that are less intimidating and gets them to talk about who they "are" in connection with their work and not just about what they "do." As women, it's important for us to develop a sense of relationship and care with our colleagues but we don't always get the chance to do that.

When I returned to my office, I had this e-mail waiting for me from one of the participants (used with permission):

"I heard so many positive comments about today's event. You put on a wonderful event, no one complained about anything, or even was blase about it, everyone was really thrilled and happy to have come. I was very proud to have one of my clients come as a guest and hear her say so many wonderful things about this event. We really ought to have a couple of them per year! Thanks again," - Bobbi Jo Woods, B. Woods Design

The way that I help "shape the world" through these events gives me hope. In creating environments for participants to make authentic connections, I'm reminded that human beings really do care about each other. The laughter that comes along with it gives me joy.

In what ways do you find hope and joy in "shaping the world"?

Doing What You Think You Cannot

2007-09-05T10:51:00.000-05:00

Today is my last day of summer "break" if you can call around the clock parenting a break. ;). Our youngest begins Kindergarten tomorrow. It's going to be a whole new world for all of us!

The topic of our September newsletter is about "Doing What You Think You Cannot". I hope you'll be inspired to set upon what you've been wanting to do but have put off out of fear or other perceived obstacles. For me, I'll be trying out "improv story telling" this fall. I'm also finishing up a fun little mockumentary about a faux band I used to be in. These are things I've been wanting to do and the milestone of turning 40 seems to be the perfect time to set upon and celebrate with these accomplishments.

Your turn!
Teresa

Summer fun: Be a tourist in your own town

2007-07-26T10:08:00.000-05:00

Here's a great way way to savor the last bit of summer (and save gas, too):

Get your calendar and pick a vacation day to be a tourist in your own town. Set your itinerary, pack your camera, sunglasses and wear something that makes you feel like you’re from out of town—maybe a t-shirt emblazoned with your city’s name. On this day, only do things that a tourist would do (e.g. don’t do laundry or cook from home!). Inspire others: post your ideas of what you plan to do for your at-home vacation as comments on this blog.

Here are some of the "tourist dates" our family has gone on:

-Take a "penny walk". You'll need two pennies. Start at home, flip the pennies; if the pennies don't match go straight; two heads go left; two tails go right. Do this everytime you arrive at a corner. You may end up walking in a couple of circles (but hey, doesn't that help you feel like a lot tourist?). It's fun having no idea of where you'll end up. See everything with fresh eyes and stop to enjoy some of the places your pennies bring you (a park, a beach, a little shop, a different neighborhood...). Don't let yourself get too lost to return home!

-Spend the entire day at Como zoo instead of buzzing through in a couple of hours. See every animal. Arrive early to get good seats and catch the Sparky show. Picnic and treat ourselves to ice cream novelties. Watch the giant tortoises long enough to see them move about and have their snack. Wander the conservatory, pick out which flowers are our favorites. Walk through the Japanese garden and ask to see the Tea House. Maybe even go on the old fashioned merry-go-round or some of the new rides at the adjacent amusement park.

-Leisure about at a waterpark on a really hot day. Arrive early and leave late. Go down the big waterslide a million times or so until a stranger points out that you wore through your swimsuit from sliding down so many times (yes, this actually happened--luckily I had a big towel and a spare swimsuit!). Get gigantic freezees that melt before we're even half-way through eating them, making a mess that is easily remedied by hopping into the pool.

-Nature hike to Minnehaha Creek. Look at everything as though we haven't seen it countless times before. Spend hours looking for fish and then trying to catch crayfish in a tiny container. Watch it for a little bit and then let it go.
-Walk over to Minnehaha falls, view it from every angle and take pictures.

For more ideas of touristy things to do, visit your town's tourism website. In Minneapolis, it is: http://www.minneapolis.org/

How will you spend the day as a tourist in your town? Post your ideas as a comment to this blog for others to enjoy!

Universe Changers: Community

2007-07-10T15:35:00.000-05:00

Universe Changers: July topic

Community
Where do you find community in your life?
How do you make community? How do you build and sustain it? What does it look like? What does it do for you? How is it a window into your life?
How do we see our community of Universe Changers? How would we like to see it?

Whether or not you can participate in a Universe Changers circle, you can join in the conversation by posting your comment on this blog. We'll look forward to hearing from you. For information on Universe Changers, click: Universe Changers! (sponsored by the Minnesota Women's Press)

Isn't Summer Supposed to be Easy? Tips to help make it so.

2007-07-04T00:24:00.000-05:00

In PCF's July newsletter, I shared a couple of tips for helping summer to be easier and am posting more here. I hope that you'll share your tips by posting them as a comment:

-Mulch, mulch, mulch. Who wants to spend time weeding?

-Here's a tip you might find a little weird but want to try: If you've ever stayed in a hostel, you probably used a sleeping sack. It is very easy to make one. Take a twin sized sheet, fold it the long way and then simply sew it along the bottom and up the side about 2/3 of the way. Waalah! A sleep sack is at the ready. When I was a young lass having just returned from my travels, I lived in a very hot apartment. I liked my room to look presentable but didn't like the work that came with it. My roommates were in awe that I kept my bed made every day (at least in the summer). Little did they know that my bed stayed made because I was sleeping on top of the covers in my sleep sack. Each morning, it would take me just seconds to tuck the sack and pillow back under the covers at the head of the bed. I'm thinking I'll try this with my kids. It won't solve their messy rooms but a made bed makes a room look cleaner than it really is. In cooler weather, I suppose you could use a sleeping bag but then you'd miss pulling up the warm covers. I told you the idea was a little weird!

-Speaking of beds and kids... If you have a child at bedwetting age, try out this useful tip (I believe I saw it in a parenting article). Make the bed twice. That's right, two layers. Mattress protector, fitted sheet, top sheet, another mattress protector, fitted sheet, top sheet. Why do this? When your little one has an accident in the middle of the night, you just peel off the top layers and have fresh sheets ready to go. With the sleep deprivation from when my children were really young, I wish I'd known about this tip much earlier. It's no fun making up a bed at two in the morning.

-Use the previous day's folded newspaper as a breakfast placemat. Spilled milk or coffee stains just get absorbed into the recycling. Okay, this isn't something you'd want to do with company over for brunch. If you have kids, use the comics for more fun and to encourage them to read while they enjoy a bowl of cereal.

Happy summer! I hope you'll share your tips!

Universe Changers: Creativity

2007-06-04T09:11:00.001-05:00

Universe Changers: June topic

Creativity
How does creativity show up in your life?
What do you create in your life?
Some creative outlets are more obvious
Painting, pottery, playing an instrument, crafting, knitting
Others are less so
Creative ideas, making a family, building a healthy body
Does creativity seem to be important in your life? Why or why not?
Beside the product or outcome, what does creativity do for you?
What does it do for those around you?

Whether or not you can participate in a Universe Changers circle, you can join in the conversation by posting your comment on this blog. We'll look forward to hearing from you. For information on Universe Changers, click: Universe Changers! (sponsored by the Minnesota Women's Press)

Lighting Up through Connections

2007-05-31T08:49:00.000-05:00

39 of us were at the The Small Business Marketing Jam last night. 38 women in business and one lone man (our sponsor from Best Buy for Business). He said he loved the energy and idea sharing in the room and definitely wants to participate again. It also helped him get a window into how women connect and network. Very useful since the target market for Best Buy for Business is women who appreciate an enhanced sense of care for their purchases through their personal shopper program. I think he was impressed by the openess and authentic care in the idea and resource sharing which happened not only in the small groups but the open networking as well.

The contingent of repeat participants have come to expect this level of meaningful connections through our events. New participants were enthusiastic about the ideas and connections they received. One business owner shared that her tax preparer/accountant (event sponsor: Karen Peterson) had strongly recommended that she attend. But really she didn't want to come. She'd had an absolutely miserable day which wasn't made any better by being stuck in traffic on the way to the event. The gray cloud hanging over her head matched the rain outside. She expected it to be just another networking event where she'd have to fake a happy face and project an image of confidence and success that wasn't in her this day. She lit up because what she found were other women in business offering real support and resources beyond just plugging their own businesses. I even overheard her offering warm words of encouragement and motivation to another participant. When she left the gray cloud over her head had disappeared along with the rain outside.

Another sponsor, Carla Kroger (Daily Administration) drove all the way in from Owatanna. While she could have been frazzled from the long drive, instead she entered gracefully and warmly greeted and interacted with the other participants. As a Virtual Assistant, her services are a great money-saving alternative to hiring support staff for a small business. It was clear that she found the long drive to be well worthwhile.

Can you tell how much I love facilitating these types of networking sessions? It fits with who I am to offer creative, welcoming venues for others to make meaningful and useful connections to enhance their lives. It gives me a true sense of purpose.

What makes you light up? What clues does that give you about what values you hold and what gives you a sense of purpose?

Money-stretching tips

2007-04-23T15:45:00.000-05:00

It seems like most everyone I'm coming across lately is experiencing some type of financial setback. In line with our mission to help you create the life you want with resources you have, I'm posting several tips to stretch your dollar here.

Sign up to be available to market research groups. There are several reputable companies that do not charge you to be in their databases (e.g. Fieldwork Minneapolis, Orman Guidance Research). If you qualify for a research study, they will pay you for your opinions and time. Other research companies such as e-rewards programs award you with incentive points each time you complete a survey. Points can be exchanged for movie rentals or magazine subscriptions.

To receive a free pass for two to the Waterpark of America or Grand Rios (both in the Twin Cities, MN) simply for visiting a website for moms, go to www.momtalk.com for details.

Notice how many of your meetings are off-site. Plenty of ideas can be exchanged over e-mail or phone. If you do plan an off-site meeting, consider a place that you can walk or take public transportation. It’s better for the environment and your pocketbook.

When renewing your newspaper subscription, instead of automatically renewing your payment call customer service to ask if there is a current special. We subscribe to the Minneapolis Star Tribune. Every single time we renew, we ask for the special and usually save almost 50% off the renewal rate. (Also, magazines will often lower your subscription rate if you wait until after the first renewal notice.)

Be sure to contact your insurance agent each year to ask if you qualify for any discounts. If not, get various quotes to make sure you are paying a fair rate. We made the costly mistake of ignoring that tip and trusting our agent when she said there weren’t lower available rates. After twelve years with the same agent, we finally compared rates and found home and auto policies with better coverage at half the price. Ouch, all those years of paying way too much!

Make your first stop the library when looking for a movie or music to enjoy. Libraries aren’t just for books anymore. Some patrons will reserve the movies or music that interests them. Myself, I like the spontaneity of seeing what’s available and finding something I might not have searched out otherwise. We save at least $150 a year by borrowing from the library versus renting.

If you have a tip to share, please post it as a comment for the benefit of others.

Universe Changers: Women Role Models

2007-04-23T09:47:00.000-05:00

Universe Changers: May topic

Women role models
Sometimes role models are best friends and sometimes they are someone you have never met.
They might be a public figure or very private.
Who are your women role models?
What have you learned from them? What examples have they set for you?
Why do you admire them?

If someone chose you as a role model, what quality or attitude or behavior would they see in you?

Whether or not you can participate in a Universe Changers circle, you can join in the conversation by posting your comment on this blog. We'll look forward to hearing from you. For information on Universe Changers, click: Universe Changers! (sponsored by the Minnesota Women's Press)

Universe Changers: Intentional Communication

2007-04-17T23:13:00.000-05:00

We're in our third month of Universe Changers! (sponsored by the Minnesota Women's Press). This month's topic is: Intentional Communication. So far, the Clickity Sticks and Crafty Planet circles have discussed this topic. Whether or not you've been able to attend, you can now join into the conversation through this blog.

Our reflection was provided by Kathy Magnuson, co-publisher of the Women's Press:

Intention.
A theme of our conversations is Changing the Universe Through Women’s Stories.
There is power in telling our stories, sharing our experiences, insights and ideas.
There is power in hearing each others stories.

There is a style (or model) of communication called Intentional Communication.
It is about giving voice out loud to that voice in your head. The one that says
What you said just insulted me and here’s why
I really disagree with you and here is why
Yes, and have you ever thought about it this way
I love you

It can be just as much about the little things in life as the big things. For me it was about
•calling a distant aunt who I have held a grudge against for about 10 years to tell her I have let go of my anger and I forgave her.
•saying to a co-worker – you have seemed on edge the last 2 days. I’m wondering if I am the cause of your anger.

When are times when you spoke intentionally? Or wished you had spoken more intentionally? Or wished you hadn’t? What would happen in our own lives and in the world if we gave more voice to to our thoughts?

So far this month, the conversations have included thoughts such as:

wishing one would have spoken intentionally sooner than later
a success story of being clear about options in a friendship that resulted in the friends parting amicably and without resentment
wondering how to speak up intentionally about something that needs to be said
how children start out speaking their intentions but then somehow learn to go around the point (e.g. "I want a cookie" evolves into "I'm hungry but not for carrots, raisins, crackers..." while really waiting to be offered a cookie.)
noticing the nuances of when speaking directly is "worth it" especially if the situation is over and done (and likely to not be repeated) or when it would hurt someone's feelings
speculating that many men seem to speak more intentionally while many women seem to find it less "natural" to do so and need to work at it

Sedna, a participant, shared this remarkable thought after contemplating Intentional Communication:
"What does my soul want to say versus my ego? What's my part in this? I'm more careful about listening and what I say may be less important than really hearing the other person."

Whether or not you are a participant in one of the groups, we encourage you to share your thoughts here by posting your comments. We look forward to hearing from you!

Interested in participating in Universe Changers? Here are the details:

Universe Changers! — sponsored by the Minnesota Women’s Press

Join one of these new discussion circles for women — because we have always made change by talking with each other. Come prepared to discuss the big and the little things in life. Let’s make change in the universe by sharing our stories, ideas, and opinions. And, who knows, you may show up in a future issue of the Minnesota Women’s Press! Facilitation orchestrated by Purple Crayon Factory. No charge to participate. RSVP to teresa@purplecrayonfactory.com. Universe Changers! meets at three locations:

· 2nd Thursday of each month, 6:30-7:30 p.m. at:
Clickity Sticks & Yarns, 2722 East 50th Street, Minneapolis, MN, 612-724-2500
(Non-knitters welcome, too. Bring a project or just come to converse)

· 3rd Tuesday of each month, 6:30-7:30 p.m. at:
Crafty Planet, 2318 Lowry Ave, NE Minneapolis, MN 612-788-1180
(Non-crafters welcome, too. Bring a project or just come to converse)

· 4th Tuesday of each month, 6:30-7:30 p.m. at:
Brewberry's Coffee Place, 475 Fairview Ave. S., St. Paul, MN, 651-699-1117
(Tea drinkers welcome, too.)

What's really in the shadows?

2007-04-03T15:07:00.000-05:00

As a child I had a vivid imagination (still do). Like many other children, the longer I looked into the dark or shadows, the scarier the shapes would become. A sweet teddy bear started looking mean and then turned into looking like a crouching intruder. A tree branch blowing in front of the window was a witch waiting for me to go to sleep (it didn't help any when the branch made scratching noises).

I thought I grew out of that. But it appears that my imagination has taken on new "shadows" to distort. About five years ago, my web designer gently suggested that I could save a lot of money on web updates by getting a simple website program. I told myself that sure it might seem simple to him but I'm no techie and I certainly wouldn't understand it. A few year's later, an artist friend told me she was using a program for web updates and it really was easy. I brushed the idea off when I thought of how b-o-o-o-r-e-d I would be trying to decipher how to use the program and how awful it would be to even give it a try.

Instead of simply trying out the program, I looked high and low until I hired someone to assist me. To me, this assistant may as well have been a knight slaying a fearful dragon. I was SO thankful to have her help. She made it look so easy that I put her on the pedestal of being a technical genius (she really was great). When she moved on with her career I was concerned about how I could ever find anyone else to help me with my website. To my surprise, within a week I received a referral for more good help. When my new assistant had a family crisis, I panicked about how to keep on top of the updates I needed if she weren't available.

I'm embarassed to say that it was the moment of panic and realizing my dependence on her that made me finally decide to approach the shadow and see if it was really that scary. I downloaded a trial version of the program, certain that it would be beyond my comprehension. I readied myself to read a diatribe of information on how to make it work. But poof, within a couple of minutes I'd learned all I needed and was eager to get started. It really WAS easy (and addictively fun, I admit). Suddenly, I felt competent in the web world. There was even a fleeting moment where I wondered, "Maybe I should branch out and offer website services." The scary image in the shadow had revealed itself to be a harmless and useful tool. (I know-just like everyone said it would be.)

So I think I've outgrown distorting the 'shadows.' Oh wait...it's tax time. I've been putting off dealing with that awful, hideous beast that grows and grows until it sucks all the oxygen out of the room. But I faintly remember that each time when I dove in and did my best, it wasn't nearly as painful as I'd imagined. Okay, I better go tackle this 'beast' while I'm feeling brave.

What's really in a 'shadow' that you fear and have been procrastinating on? What would help you approach it so that you could see it's not as bad as you've imagined.

Let's Dish! Business Networking: upcoming sessions

2007-03-27T11:33:00.000-05:00

Connect with other businesses, have fun and make your life less hectic by coming home with meals for the rest of the week! $79 covers everything (this is LESS than the price to dish alone!):

· Easy and interactive networking facilitated by Teresa from Purple Crayon Factory

· Four fresh, delicious meals

· Light refreshments

· A chance to win a Let’s Dish gift certificate

· Super goodie bag

“Excellent event! I love the multitasking of it -- bringing home dinner and networking at the same time...great! And your gift bags were terrific -- amazing. Thanks again for a really fun time.” – Lenore Moritz Rabatin, MomCulture (see more wonderful testimonials in the blog entry below)

What more could you ask for?

Choose your session:
Monday, June 11, 5:30 - 7:30 p.m. at Let’s Dish!, Maple Grove.
Tuesday, July 24, 11:30 a.m. - 1:30 p.m. at Let’s Dish!, Rochester.
E-mail us for more details or to be included in the goodie bags. To register, click www.letsdish.com and select the location and “RSVP to private party”. Select the date and enter this password: Purple. Select your four meals (each serves six or split into eight smaller meals). When you check out, enter the promotional code: Purple5 to receive the reduced $79 rate.

Register today!

Fun and meaningful business connections

2007-03-23T15:41:00.000-05:00

Wednesday's Let's Dish! Business event was completely amazing. I had intended it to be an awesome event with great connections to be made but I was blown away. E-mails keep pouring in from the participants. Here is just a sample of the wonderful things they are saying:

- Thank you Teresa – I had a fabulous time. Great introduction, fabulous environment and inspiring guests. I think this was a wonderful kick-off event and I would absolutely be interested in attending again sometime. Your sincerity is inspirational and Darcy’s (Let's Dish! co-owner) energy and balance were refreshing – invigorating. Clearly she must have a busy life as she enjoys the success of her dream thus far – BUT she was down to earth and fit in with the group. I am glad to have been there, yesterday. Thank you for everything. Great Job! -- Diane Healey, Sweet! truffles, cakes and more.
(Along with a wealth of wonderful gifts in the goodie bag, every participant received a delicious truffle from Sweet!)

-teresa -- excellent event! i love the multitasking of it -- bringing home dinner and networking at the same time...great! maybe next time we can fold laundry together (nothing like knocking out more home projects.) and your gift bags were terrific -- amazing. thanks again for a really fun time. -- Lenore Moritz Rabatin, MomCulture

-First, I want to say thanks for putting together that great event on Wednesday. I had fun, met some great people and have four full meals in my freezer! Doesn't get any better than that. -- Connie Lanphear, green i communications

- CONGRATULATIONS! This was great - I'm so glad I came. You've got something fun here. -- Beth Woodward, Marketing on the Playground

-It was a great event Teresa. You are definitely in your element in that role, much to the benefit of everyone who attends. With thanks and a WOW back -- Martha Franke, life coach and therapist, Creative Coaching

-(I've set a) meeting on Wed. about a website and 2 other people said they'd give me a call! Pretty good response rate I'd say! Great connections! I really hope you continue these networking sessions with Let's Dish and I think they should just create a position in their company for you to do that. Darcy was very inspiring and obviously impressed with you and the turnout, so good luck! -- Lisa Schmidtke, Web Depot

-You did an OUTSTANDING job pulling it all together and really just making it such a great event for everyone involved. I left feeling very inspired by you and everyone else. Lot's of fun.Thanks and GREAT JOB! - Darcy Olson, co-owner, Let's Dish

We are planning to offer two more Let's Dish! Business networking sessions at the Edina location. The dates are Wednesday, May 9, 7-9 p.m. and Thursday, May 10, 10-noon. I'll post details in my next blog entry and in our e-newsletter.

Happy connecting!
Teresa

Let's Dish! Business

2007-03-05T12:58:00.000-06:00

Let’s Dish! Business networking

Connect with other businesses, have fun and make your life less hectic by coming home with meals for the rest of the week! $79 covers everything:

<>· Easy and interactive networking facilitated by Teresa from Purple Crayon Factory

· <>Create four yummy meals that serve 6 (or split into eight smaller meals)

· Light refreshments

· A chance to win a Let’s Dish gift certificate

· Receive a wonderful goodie bag

What more could you ask for?
Choose your session:
Next week - Monday, June 11, 5:30 - 7:30 p.m. at Let’s Dish!, Maple Grove.
Tuesday, July 24, 11:30 a.m. - 1:30 p.m. at Let’s Dish!, Rochester.
E-mail us for more details or to be included in the goodie bags. To register, click www.letsdish.com and select the location and “RSVP to private party”. Select the date and enter this password: Purple. Select your four meals (each serves six or split into eight smaller meals). When you check out, enter the promotional code: Purple5 to receive the reduced $79 rate. Register today!

Online Ideal Business Support

2007-03-05T11:16:00.000-06:00

create the life you want with resources you have

Online Ideal Business Support

Full Year Program

(Participate online and at your convenience from anywhere you have internet access.)

Want regular motivation and accountability to bring your business to the next level?

Join this year-long supportive network for mission-driven small business and wellness professionals to pursue and achieve business aspirations. As an online group, participate weekly at the times it is most convenient for you. Our discussion and action will be centered on Twelve Months to Your Ideal Private Practice: A Workbook by Lynn Grodzki.

“I LOVE this group! It’s helping me realize I know more than I thought I knew and I’m gaining clarity by being accountable.” – participant

“I was in a slump and being in this group and the workbook helped me out of it. Thank you!” – participant

"This program is a real kick in the pants for me." – participant

Facilitated by Teresa Thomas-Carroll

As founder and director of Purple Crayon Factory, Teresa creates opportunities for meaningful connections and realizations via workshops and networking groups. Her passion and creative energy is fused into all of her work. She is a collaborator with The Small Business Marketing Jam.

Basic membership – $300 for the full year (price includes the workbook)

Participate in the ongoing online discussions and support. Post your business related events on the group calendar. Receive invitations to teleconference calls with others in the group.

Incentive – each week that you share what you are learning with the online group, you’ll earn a dollar off the basic membership price up to $52 savings making the total price only $248! (Incentive will be tallied and refunded after the completion of the year-long program.)

Optional a la carte services for Online Ideal Business members

1:1 Consultation to Pursue Your Goals (regularly priced at $60/hour)

Choose the plan that works best for you:

· Pay as you go ($50/hour billed in 15 minute increments)

· 1 hour monthly or bi-monthly ½ hour sessions ($500 for full year)

· ½ hour monthly ($275 for full year)

· ¼ hour monthly ($145 for full year)

DISC Assessment and Profile- $40 (regular price is $50)

Use this simple but comprehensive personality styles tool to:

· Identify and maximize your strengths

· Communicate more effectively

· Realize what motivates you and how you can motivate others

· Enhance self-confidence

· Accentuate your management

· Take care of and recognize stress triggers

· Establish a clear connection between how your style affects your business

To request registration, please e-mail your name and type of business to info@purplecrayonfactory.com. Please note whether you wish to register only for the online group or any a la carte services.

Note: Prices and services are current as of April 2007 and are subject to change.

Be Your Authentic Self and Change the World

2007-02-16T10:26:00.000-06:00

Our sister i (creative women's) group met last night. We met at the newly created art studio at Kei's home. Especially because we had been along with her on the journey, it was incredible to be witness to the culmination of her vision.

When we first came together as a group 8 years ago, she had shared her dream of having a real studio (not a dark, cold room in the basement) to create her art. She set her intention, checked in with us regularly and made progress over the years. Because she was clear in her intention, when her family was house-hunting she held it as a priority and then recognized the perfect home for realizing her dream. After much planning and patience, the large attic transformed into a bright and beautiful space honoring the process of her artmaking.

We had a deep conversation about how we affect the world when we pursue our dreams. Our friends, family, children's friends and so on, become inspired about how they, too can honor their purpose and vision.

Barb (a member who has a gift for eloquently pulling together ideas), shared, "Just look at the ripple effect of claiming the power of authentic self. It's magnetic! Others think, 'Me, too! Me, too! I want to taste that!'"

Recognize the ways that you are honoring the power of your authentic self and how by doing so, it lifts up possibilities for others.

The Small Business Marketing Jams

2007-01-29T21:05:00.000-06:00

When is the last time you went to a networking event and the whole room was erupting into kindhearted laughter? How about the last time you were at one of these events and made meaningful connections AND walked away with great realizations and support contributed by the others in attendance? I am so fortunate to facilitate exactly the networking I described through The Small Business Marketing Jams with Taiha Wagner from Mom on the Go.

Last Wednesday, we had 27 participants and on Thursday, we had 16. It turned out that nearly all of the participants were all women small business owners with one small business banker and one marketing rep. Careers ranged from a a website developer, to a holistic magazine publisher, to a lifecoach and a wide range in between.

Taiha and I were pleasantly surprised at the wealth of ideas the participants shared for each other. In the "Power of Collaboration" session, each small group came up with incredible hypothetical ways to collaborate and it sounds like many of them will be following through to make their ideas for cross support a reality. They also had a lot of fun with the exercises. We love doing these!

When I think about the networking events I most enjoy, it's when I get the chance to really converse with the other participants and learn something new--not just their name, business and type of referral they want. I am drawn to create events that I would be most interested in personally. I learned many years ago that when I try to be something I'm not, I become less interested and confident in my work. When I reveal my own style and passion, everything else seems to fall into place.

How do you bring your true self and interests into your work? Might there be a way to do more of this?

Car-Sharing in Minneapolis

2007-01-05T22:17:00.000-06:00

I wrote an informational article about what it's like to use a car-sharing service and encouraging people to consider it as a way to be more environmentally responsible and budget conscious. It was exciting to see it featured nicely on the back cover (page 20) of our local newspaper. To read about HOURCAR, a car-sharing service in Minneapolis, click here: Longfellow Nokomis Messenger.

What environmentally responsible commitment will you make for 2007?

Gratitude Begets Happiness

2007-01-01T17:17:00.000-06:00

Some friends had been sharing ideas about happiness and why we desire from a book they'd read. I was intrigued so they lent me, On Desire: Why We Want What We Want by William B. Irvine.

In the introduction this philosophy professor states that scholars on the concept of desire have come to this conclusion:

"...the best way—indeed perhaps the only way—to attain lasting happiness is not to change the world around us or our place in it but to change ourselves. In particular, if we can convince ourselves to want what we already have, we can dramatically enhance our happiness without any change in our circumstances."

Now, when I catch myself longing for things to be different so that I’ll feel happier, I remind myself of this wisdom. I notice how many things in my life are exactly as they need to be at this moment. I recognize the bounty of what I do have (loved ones, support and yes, even treasured things) and cherish that I am so fortunate. I’ve heard time and again that an attitude of gratitude is a key to harmony. Now, it’s sinking in even more deeply that gratitude can also act as an antidote to getting stuck in despair.

What do you think is the way to achieve true happiness?

A New Year, A New Beginning

2006-12-26T15:35:00.000-06:00

By Sonya, PCF's fall 06 intern

With the arrival of the New Year, it is the perfect time to reflect on what has brought us to where we are now and what lies on the road ahead. It is a good time to make peace with ourselves and to remember that "regrets are just lessons we haven't learned yet." Embrace all of the mistakes we have made and approach the New Year as a fresh start, an opportunity to do what we might have been afraid to do in the past, and a time to step boldly into our own futures.

I will be returning to The College of Saint Catherine next semester as a Senior, and while this year may mark the end of one phase of my life, it will also be a time of looking ahead and really choosing the direction that my life will take me. Interning for The Purple Crayon factory has been instrumental in helping me set my course towards a life as a therapist. While I have learned many invaluable lessons in college classrooms, it is another thing entirely to meet people who are really working in the health and wellness industry, to see where they work, or more importantly, to learn why they do what they do. I believe most would agree that it has to do with a desire to help others improve their quality of life, to spread joy, and to reassure people of the power they have. I have always known that I wanted to offer people this kind of service, but only a few years ago, this would have seemed like an impossibility. When I was supposed to enter my junior year of high school, a series of bad experiences led me to choose not to return to school. Even after my life began to improve, I floundered and felt like I had very few opportunities available to me and even less direction in my life. I truly believed that I would never be able to pull myself out of the stereotypical role of "high school drop out." Obtaining my GED gave me no sense of accomplishment because I was still certain that I would never be able to reach my goals.

Shortly after I turned eighteen, I had something like an epiphany. I realized that, in spite of the temptation to point fingers and place blame, quitting school had ultimately been my choice. No one had gotten me into this mess but myself, and nobody but myself was going to pick me up and set me on my feet again. It was an unsettling feeling to realize that I was entirely on my own, but it also led me to feel empowered. If I was a victim of circumstance, it was because I had made the decision to be a victim. So, I became my own guardian angel. I took a monumental leap and decided to leave my home state of Arizona and come to the only place that was at all familiar. Minnesota was where I had been born, and it seemed like it would be the most appropriate place to be born again. With no real support and no set plan, I enrolled at a community college and gathered around me a network of caring people to help me on my way.Since then, my path has taken many more strange turns and the going hasn't always been easy, but four years later, I find myself on the precipice of graduating from a great college, armed with some amazing experiences that I can't wait to share with others. In my life, I've made many mistakes, and I've learned first-hand the value of a fresh start. A clean slate is something that is never given to you, it is a choice that must be made, a conscious decision to let go and to just jump right in to life. In the coming year, remember the importance of taking chances. You are the only person with the power to change your circumstances!

Is there a SANTA CLAUS?

2006-12-20T23:08:00.002-06:00

Instead of sugarplums, an acronym danced in my head. Earlier this week, I had a dream in which I was recounting how fortunate I am to know such wonderful, supportive people and how several times, kindnesses have come mysteriously, anonymously or miraculously (just like Santa).

My dream morphed from counting my blessings into my son asking me whether there really is a Santa Claus. In my dream, I remember wanting to capture the spirit of giving, generosity and care and figuring out an acronym that would convey that. When I woke and hopped in the shower that morning, the dream and the acronym came back to me in a flash.

This is what my dream came up with:

Somebody's
Always
Noticing
That
Another

Could
Love
And
Use
Something

That sounds like the spirit of Santa Claus to me!

If you like this, you may share it with others provided you attribute it to: Teresa Thomas-Carroll, copyright 2006. I want to give my dream credit where it's due. :)

Wishing you happy dreaming and holidays!

Using metaphor for your business model

2006-12-01T17:31:00.000-06:00

As a visual person, I find imagery and metaphor to be really useful tools for understanding and creating new awareness in my personal and business life. I'm fortunate that in my job, I get to connect with various coaches and wellness practioners who use imagery and metaphor in their work.

When I started my business, I used the metaphor of a vine to visualize how it would grow. I saw that the vine needed a trellis/support to rise off of the ground (just as a business person needs support). I took comfort that with care the vine would flourish and grow. I'd prune the areas that weren't thriving or pulled energy from the rest of the vine. I'd add extra supports to areas that were becoming heavy with flowers. I liked the unpredictability of the vine seeking its way toward the sun, sending tendrils to where it needed to grow.

The metaphor served me well in the early part of my business. But after three years, I needed a new image. I noticed that the vine of my business was sending out lots of energy to the tendrils and new growth and less so to it's core. With the help of a Certified Dream Coach®, Lisa Carmichael (612-280-0734, spagal@mysensaria.com) I was able to find the metaphor that is more useful for me to understand what I need to do for the next stage of growth.

My business is no longer a rambling vine trying to find it's place in the world. Rather, it's established itself as more of a tree. A tree cannot thrive and stand strong unless it's roots run deep and connect to sustenance. The trunk of the tree and it's main branches have to absorb all that they need before the nourishment can create and sustain new growth. I realized that I can no longer send the bulk of my energy to the "leaves/new growth". When I view this as a business model, I see that it's become time to draw energy from the roots (sustenance, purpose, passion, values, connection, integrity), to strengthen the base (core/spirit, self, family, loved ones), nourish the protective bark (support systems), make sure the main branches are tended (key facilitators and clients), while still honoring the twigs and leaves for the energy exchange that happens with them (colleagues and other acquaintances).

I'm both relieved and curious to see how this new model influences the way that I go about my business. And it makes me I wonder what metaphor I'll be using in another three years. Thanks Lisa for getting me to a place to find this useful visual!

What metaphor do you find useful for the way you work and/or live your life?

An act of kindness

2006-11-29T14:08:00.000-06:00

Mothers' Connection brought in Deborah Dora to facilitate Ambassadors of Kindness for their group. As was promised, the group came up with great ideas for instilling additional kindness into their lives and comfort zones were tweaked as Deborah led them in connecting with each other and spreading kindness.

Several times I was moved nearly to tears as mothers shared beautiful acts of kindness that they had received or were planning to share. One woman decided to pay a month's mortgage for a family member experiencing financial hardship. Others shared ways such as sending loving notes of gratitude or anonymously sending care packages.

I reflected on how fortunate I am to have so much support in my life and ways I can continue to pass along the support.

The Mom on the Go webcast interviewed Leslie Vaillancourt of Mother's Connection the next day and she mentioned Deborah's session right in the beginning of the show. If you'd like to listen to this and tips for moms, click on Mom on the Go Radio Show.

How might you be an Ambassador of Kindness in your own life?

Is it time for a change in your 'look'?

2006-11-13T15:38:00.000-06:00

An awesome gift came to me by way of a makeover. Mom-Camp selected several moms for their Everyday Mom makeover and fashion show. (See before and after photos of all the models here!) eqLife cut our hair and gave us highlights. MAC showed us new ways to wear our makeup. And each of us was designated to a clothing store to try out a new look (mine was Brooks Brothers).

Each time I've gone in to get a hair cut, I've walked out happy but unsurprised. Because I'd given the stylist the general idea of what I wanted, that's what I'd get (or something close). With a makeover, it was my opportunity to see what potential complete strangers saw in me. My haircut is now a short, super-easy, just mess it up and go cut. Perfect for me as a mom! The color has much more depth than what I've been getting from a box. I learned tips for applying my makeup and I'm having fun with that. And it was a real treat wearing the luxurious fabrics from Brookes Brothers, even if it was just for one evening. I did learn from them about how to wear a sweater so that it looks less slouchy and what length my pants should be (Being tall, I think I've worn most of my pants a bit too short.)

With my new look, I'm feel more "pulled together" and having fun with it, too. Thanks Mom-Camp, eqLife, MAC, Brooks Brothers and the Mall of America!

Are you ready for a new look? Keep your eyes open for people who look similar to you and have a look you love. Notice what it is about them that caught your attention. What adjectives come to mind? Is there something about the style or colors that spoke to you? If you love that person's hairstyle, don't be afraid to ask where it was cut. Take out a notebook and write down these things. And then treat yourself to a fresh look!

What would you never give up?

2006-10-26T21:17:00.000-05:00

Last night I presented, Yes, You Can Choose Better Over Really Good for the Stillwater BPW (Business and Professional Women's Association) in celebration of National Business Women's Week. About 20% of the participants shared that they were retired. At first I was surprised and was intrigued by why they were interested in coming to this business and networking event. Upon hearing their stories, it became readily apparent that they'd made powerful, meaningful connections with the other women in the group and found it a continuing source of support in their next phase of life. (I'm sure they, in turn, are mentors sharing their wisdom). Some commented that they had retired several times and been drawn back to work for the passion of it. I found this striking. It made me think about the things in my life that I would not stop doing, even if I had everything I needed. The first thing that comes to mind is that I would continue to find creative outlets. I'd continue to seek out opportunities to meet new and inspiring people. I don't think I'd be able to stop being a "connector" type, bringing people together who would be mutually beneficial to each other or connecting them with opportunities they might not have otherwise.

If you were to have everything you could possibly need, what would you continue doing?

Motivation through connecting

2006-10-24T21:40:00.000-05:00

Tonight was the Mom-Camp mixer for workshop presenters, sponsors and volunteers. It was a gas. Most enjoyable was renewing and creating connections with the others. We talked a little about six-degrees of separation and with just a quick overview could easily see how we were connected in various ways to each other. Many of the women I knew from meeting at Mom-Camp but several others I'd met and/or worked with in different settings. One of my core values is creating meaningful connections so I really enjoyed when I could see these wonderful women coming together, sharing about their work, laughing and informally finding ways of supporting each other's businesses. Ideas for collaboration sprung forth with ease. My mind is still reeling from the possibilities we could explore. It's all very exciting and keeps me fueled and excited about what's ahead.

What connections in your life fuel you for what's ahead? What roles do friends, family, colleagues or new acquaintances play in keeping you motivated?

Mini-Reflection on my Visit to the Mayo!

2006-10-23T19:22:00.000-05:00

Greetings to Purple Crayon Factory facilitators and friends!

My name is Sonya Clemens, and I am PCF's intern from the College of Saint Catherine. At St. Kate's, I study Psychology primarily, with minors in Philosophy and Latin. I became curious about PCF when I stumbled upon their website, as I was interested in learning more about career opportunities in the health and wellness community as well as meeting people who practice psychology in less-than-traditional ways. The Purple Crayon Factory's mission is very much like my own. As a therapist, I hope to inspire people to look at their problems in new ways and to work with the resources they have to achieve happier, fuller lives.

Recently, I attended Teresa Thomas-Carroll's workshop at the Mayo Clinic. While it was a little bit intimidating for a lowly college student like me to be surrounded by so many intelligent, professional women, as always I was surprised to see how receptive they were to a process that probably differs so much from what they are used to. I mean, how many grown women would, by their own power, choose to sit down with glue and scissors to make a reflective collage? But they seemed to really enjoy the chance to be creative and to embrace the theme of the workshop whole-heartedly.

It's *so interesting* from a psychological standpoint to hear what women value in their own lives, and to witness the visual change that takes place between the moment we enter the room and the moment we leave -- especially during the guided meditation, when the whole room collectively seems to become more relaxed and focused. It's a tool I plan to use in my own practice because it really does seem to help people "tap in" to the wellspring of creativity and power they have to change their own lives. Coming from a strictly academic background where so much emphasis is placed on "tried-and-true" methods that offer quantitative results, I may have never had a chance to see what techniques like guided imagery can offer, but after witnessing its affect first-hand, it seems like a valuable tool. I also like the simplicity of collage because it offers a creative "right-brain" outlet for self-discovery without being as intimidating as drawing or painting; with collage, more emphasis is placed on the process rather than the final product.

I really enjoyed my trip to the Mayo, if only because it was a rare chance to venture inside the walls of one of the most well-respected medical facilities in the country. I enjoyed seeing Teresa's methods in action, and hope to someday put them to use myself!

Online Ideal Business Support

2006-10-12T20:41:00.000-05:00

I've had several questions about the Online Ideal Business Support groups. Since the group is online, you can participate even if you don't live in Minnesota. Here's the scoop:

Full Year Program

Want regular motivation and accountability to bring your business to the next level? Join this year-long supportive network for mission-driven small business and healing professionals to pursue and achieve business aspirations. As an online group, you participate when it is most convenient for you. Our discussion and action will be centered on Twelve Months to Your Ideal Private Practice: A Workbook by Lynn Grodzki.

Teresa Thomas-Carroll facilitates, with occasional teleconferences.

As founder and director of Purple Crayon Factory, Teresa creates opportunities for meaningful connections and realizations via workshops and networking groups. Her passion and creative energy is fused into all of her work. She collaborates on The Small Business Marketing Jam Sessions with The Small Business Helper.

For more details and pricing e-mail your name and business to info@purplecrayonfactory.com

As an informal online group, we can go in the direction that best serves the group. We'll use the exercises outlined each month from the "Twelve Months...Workbook". I'll get us started each month, help to direct the conversation and share some closing thoughts at the end of each month's exercise. We'll share our progress, obstacles, advice and useful resources with each other. If it feels like an outside expert would be helpful, I'll invite in someone appropriate to give us suggestions. The intention is for us to learn together while using the workbook as a tool to aid our progress.

My personal motivation for facilitating the online groups comes from 1) Lynn Grodzki's book, "Building Your Ideal Private Practice"--even though I'm not a therapist, this book has been instrumental for me to learn soft ways of marketing (I cringe at hard sales) while developing a supportive collegial network, 2) Because I've implemented so many of the strategies, a therapist friend has been encouraging me for almost three years to start up a group based on the book, 3) Now that there's a workbook, it's the perfect way to work through the exercises together and 4) One of my personal missions is to create meaningful connections between people to learn from and support each other.

I hope you'll join us. If you'd like to register, please e-mail me your name and business. I will then send you an invoice. Shortly after I receive your registration, I'll send confirmation with more details.

Lynn Grodzki sends out occasional e-newsletters with tips especially useful to therapists and coaches. You can subscribe on her website.

Click Twelve Months to Your Ideal Private Practice: A Workbook to purchase the workbook. This is an affiliate link and any percentage that PCF receives will help us to keep our offerings affordable.

On Top of the World: Mayo Clinic, Rider Bennett Law and more!

2006-10-09T22:13:00.000-05:00

Because of events in the past week and a half, I'm on top of the world!

It all started with a fantastic session for 60 at the Mayo Clinic. The next day, I co-facilitated The Small Business Marketing Jam which once again sold out with 35 registrations. Then just last Thursday, our facilitator Mia Bolte presented on Addressing the Inner Critic for Rider Bennett Law's "An Autumn Afternoon". When Mia and I recapped our experiences with each other, it was so nice to hear the excitement not only about how it felt for us but from what participants shared with us afterward. Follow up communications from attendees confirmed that the sessions were well received. We were affirmed that by following our passions we cannot help but stumble upon success along the way.

When I need a boost, I review the kudos we receive to confirm the value of our offerings. It works every time.

Think of the kudos you've received. If you haven't already, create a file, box or other way to capture kind notes about the usefulness you bring into the world. When you're feeling less confident, peruse the notes to remember the importance of your uniqueness and the impact you make.

Transitioning into fall

2006-09-10T17:47:00.000-05:00

I've enjoyed a relatively carefree summer, taking time away from work and enjoying little adventures with my children. School started last week and I am ready to get back into the groove of having regular work hours.

Every fall, I seem to forget that it takes me about a month to adjust to the school year schedule. The first few days, I have piles of work that I'm eager to accomplish but I seem to have forgotten just how long it really takes to get through everything. To manage, I'm prioritizing the major tasks and getting them on my calendar so that I can see what details I need to tend to week to week.

Here are a few of the things that are exciting me for this fall:

1) We've landed the following major clients this fall: The Mayo Clinic is bringing us in to facilitate Envision Your Ideal Life for 60 staff. Rider Bennett Law is bringing in PCF facilitator, Mia Bolte to serve on an experts panel and to also present Addressing Your Inner Critic for their annual "An Autumn Afternoon" event.

2) We have an intern for the semester. Sonya Clemens is a psychology student at St. Kate's and a great fit for our team. She's already helped with one workshop and said it inspired her to create a collage about her goals.

3) It's becoming clear that our typical clients are 1) those in diverse fields of education and 2) mothers. It makes sense since my background is in 1) working in higher education and 2) being a mother. ;) I think the draw has something to do with the fact that education professionals understand the value of reflection and that mothers crave any chance to take a break from all of their doing to have a chance to reflect on their goals, aspirations and ways to take care of themselves.

Here's to a smooth transition into fall!
Teresa

Customers as Best Salesforce

2006-08-01T23:01:00.000-05:00

I've been on hiatus from blogging, taking much of the summer off to play and just "be" with my kids. Today I'm charged up though and feel like blogging.

A couple posts ago, I blogged about giving up my car and becoming a member of HourCar (a shared car program with a hybrid fleet in the Twin Cities). I made the decision for practical, environmental and financial reasons. But what feels best is knowing that my choice is not onl working out but aligns with my values so well.

I'm so excited by the shared car concept that I volunteered to bring the car to our National Night Out celebration to introduce others to it. The gathering ended up getting rained out but several folks still had a chance to check it out. I then brought the car to a friends' place where their guests wanted to see how it worked and had lots of questions. Because I am experiencing HourCar membership firsthand, the people I talk to know that I'm sharing what it's really like to be a member. Since I believe in the concept and want it to thrive, I'm eager to keep telling others about the service.

In what ways does your service or product align with the values of your clients? How might your clients help spread the word about what you offer?

Mindfulness from a Maple, part 3

2006-06-16T14:59:00.000-05:00

This spring, I blogged about our family collecting sap (lots!) from our maple to create syrup. Now that it's summer, I've found a way to put the syrup to great use--homemade maple ice cream!

I played with the Maple Walnut recipe from "The Best Ice Cream Maker Cookbook Ever" by Peggy Fallon and came up with the following:

Homemade Maple Ice Cream (serves 4-6)

1 cup heavy cream
1 cup half and half
1/2 cup pure maple syrup (I used the darker syrup that gets collected in later spring and saved the excellent lighter syrup for pancakes and such)
1 tsp vanilla extract
dash salt
optional: 1/2 cup (toasted pecans or walnuts)

Serve it immediately after freezing for best consistency.

Whisk it together and freeze it up in an ice cream maker (following maker directions). Place the soft scoops into serving bowls and for those who like nuts, sprinkle toasted pecans or walnuts on top.

Harvesting and patiently boiling down the syrup gave our family a deeper awareness and appreciation for our connection to nature and our food. Churning the syrup into ice cream takes us even deeper as we anxiously wait for it to freeze and then savor the subtle flavor in every spoonful.

In what ways do you deepen your connections to nature and/or food?

Symplifying--What a Relief

2006-05-29T23:51:00.000-05:00

In my quest to simplify and make my life more fun and easy, sometimes extenuating circumstances make choices for me I might not otherwise make. For instance, I have always had rotten luck with cars. I'd always invest in repairs only to have more costly repairs around the corner and then ending with repairs more expensive than the cars' worth.

I had a car die on me last summer. The used car I got already died on me this spring. Instead of my usual car post-mortem sorrow, I just chuckled and realized life had been trying to tell me something for a long-time: "Find another way--an easier, less-expensive alternative that fits your values."

I'd been pining for a hybrid car but knew it was outside of our budget. But a creative solution came to be that would have me in a hybrid! In Minneapolis, we have a relatively new car share program called HOURCAR. It's a hybrid fleet that you basically just pay for the time and mileage you use it. The car is insured, clean and they just added a new hub not too far from where we live.

I've been without my own car for over a month now. I've become more efficient with the trips I take, walking and biking more, and orchestrating when I need to drive my husband's truck. And now that I've completed the orientation for HOURCAR, I can reserve it for times I'll need it for work.

It's a huge relief to not worry about when the next repair will be (and how much it will cost!), insurance and the escalating cost of gas. I hope this works out as great as I'm imagining it will!

What circumstance(s) in your life has caused you to reshift your thinking and simplify?

Is that smile real? (Just for fun)

2006-05-12T15:52:00.000-05:00

Can you tell whether a smile is real or fake? I found out about this fun test through the Star Tribune newspaper and was a little disappointed in my results (I thought I'd be a pro and I only got about 70% correct). Once on this BBC site, you'll see several other intriguing tests. I took some of the tests and the results showed that I'm an empathic, mentor-type, "feminine-brained" extravert who prefers impressionist art and good at reading emotions...but I also learned that I don't think like a millionaire. Who knew? ;) So then I took another test to see if I'm capable of working like a millionaire...not quite. In the summary, it stated that millionaires tend to not value work/life balance and I'm not one to give up on that.

Gratitude is a Piece of Cake

2006-05-11T15:04:00.000-05:00

I love having my own business. I'm able to prioritize my time for what is really important. I was able to take a "work" day off in order to prepare for my daughter's 4th birthday. I can't imagine any of my previous jobs (as great as they were) giving me a day off for party planning and cake decorating. ;)

Without feeling rushed, I was able to create this cake that I believed would take my daughter's breath away. When I unveiled my creation to her, she asked, "And next your going to put more cake on the top?" Immediately, I knew that she'd envisioned a tall, spire-filled castle.

When I said that I was actually done with it, she gave me a big hug and replied, "That's okay mama! It doesn't look like a castle, but I still love it!"

I admit my pride was a little squashed but it was offset by her authentic gratitude. Though I hadn't created the cake she imagined, she was still pleased and thankful. She told me (and others) many times that I made her a very special cake. My little four year old reminded me about feeling gracious even when things don't work out how I'd imagined.

In what ways can you still be grateful for things that haven't worked out like you expected?

Get Real

2006-04-11T11:16:00.000-05:00

Check out this thought-provoking article, "Image Versus Real-Life" written by Martha Franke of Creative Coaching, LLC. I received it at the perfect time. I'm presenting soon at an event on choosing "better over really good". It's my personal story of taking the leap into PCF. I've been asked to share this story for it's inspirational qualities, yet my inner critic keeps saying that the audience will expect my presentation to be primarily about financial success when it's mostly about self-actualization. I was reassured by Martha's words and the bold quote at the end of her article.

I, like Martha, hold one of my core values as authenticity. I very often wonder (in my inner critic voice) if I'm being too open, vulnerable, real. But when it comes down to it I prefer to be who "I am" and am most inspired when I am around others who are genuine.

Think about your core values and how they ring true with the image you project. It feels right when you "get real".

Mindfulness from a Maple, part 2

2006-04-09T23:13:00.000-05:00

Today was a beautiful day. I spent a good chunk of it watching over a pot of boiling maple sap on our outdoor grill. I'd learned my lesson from burning a couple of batches that one really needs to keep an eye on the sap as it boils down. A rolling boil on a fiery grill is much more vigorous than can be achieved on a stovetop. I was mesmerized by the action of the sap lapping up the sides of the pot and the swirling shapes that the foam would make. It was calming and centering to just watch the sap boil, similar to the effects of staring into a campfire. It felt good to let go of other concerns and to be fully present and absorbed in the task at hand.

Think about what tasks can help you to be mindful and fully present.

Mindfulness from a Maple

2006-04-03T21:26:00.000-05:00

My family is experiencing the wondrous process of collecting and distilling syrup from the maple in our front yard. We are gaining an enormous appreciation and understanding of how our tree nourishes itself and now, us. It takes about 43 gallons of sap to make one gallon of syrup. Knowing this, it feels important to savor every drop.

Our son has been exclaiming, "Thank you, tree! This is the best syrup ever!" We share his sentiments.

This experience has caused me to pause and reflect on how much effort and love goes into so many of the things we eat and use. I encourage you to take some time today to really pay attention to what you might usually take for granted.

Information on maple syruping can easily be found through Google. Or click on this simple site from the University of MN Extension service to get started.

The Value of Learning from Clients

2006-03-16T21:05:00.000-06:00

Let's think about our businesses and the audiences we serve. One of the first things that might come to mind is how we provide high value for our clients.

Now, let's think about the value our work gives to us. What are we learning from our clients? How do they expand our experiences? How do they boost our creativity? In what ways do they help us to keep our work feeling fresh and fun?

Photo: Here I am (left) with Michelle LaPoint at the Creativity & Tea: Open Studio I hosted last Saturday. Michelle is a Stampin' Up! Demonstrator who teaches people to express their creativity with rubber stamping. I'll be attending one of her sessions soon and look forward to learning new techniques from her.

When Good Enough is Good Enough

2006-03-05T23:31:00.000-06:00

I made a simple decision today that felt amazing.

I'd submitted a draft version of a tip to be included in the soon to be published e-book, Mom-Camp Survival Guide. I figured that if they liked the tip, I'd polish up the draft for publication. I received a prompt response saying that it was a perfect tip, they'd like to include it and that it read fine just as it was.

My first thought was, "Oh, but that was just a draft. I'll need to keep working on it." But then I caught myself. They said it was already good enough to be included. So I set aside my "perfectionist" hat and donned my "good enough" hat. What a comfortable fit!

Getting Your Story Into the World

2006-02-23T00:26:00.000-06:00

I was happy that my publicist, Mary Lower of Sterling Cross Communications attended our last Creativity & Tea: open studio. It was a great way for her to get a sense of what I do by experiencing it herself. Since I've hired her to get the PCF story out into the world, it feels important for her to have an authentic experience of an aspect of what we do. I find that when I'm trying to communicate what we do, it works best to give a sample.

Mary took this photo of one of the participants in the session. Photos and testimonials are ways that your potential clients can get a taste of what you do and better understand your story.

How do you communicate what you do? How do you get your story out? Are there ways people can sample what you do?

The Power of Expressive Art

2006-02-21T23:31:00.000-06:00

Once again, I was amazed at the insights that expression through art can bring to issues that are otherwise stuck and stagnating in our logical, left brains. PCF facilitator, Tasha Burg's led us through her "Expressive Art: Transforming the Emotions of Pain" session on Saturday. We all experienced how to pay attention to what our bodies and emotions are trying to tell us about what we need to support our well-being. Tasha recommend's the book Visual Journaling, by Barbara Ganim to gain practice in using art for self-discovery and healing.

Symbiotic Collaboration

2006-02-18T11:35:00.000-06:00

Collaborating can be so nice. I met Lenore Moritz Rabatin about a month ago when she contacted me to learn more about what we do at Purple Crayon Factory. Lenore is a former Public Relations executive who found creativity to be the balance she needed in her work. She is pursuing study in the connection between creativity and productivity. She asked if she could shadow a session sometime. In February, she participated in our Creativity and Tea session. She offered to help with another session and I invited her to co-facilitate a Nurture Your Creativity session for VISTA.

We got together and tailored the session for the college VISTAs. It was so fun bouncing ideas back and forth. She shared a great brainstorming technique that I'll use again now that I know how well it works. Yesterday, we co-facilitated the session for 40 VISTA participants. We had good interplay between us. I enjoyed the extra perspectives she shared as well as her assistance. Both of us felt we had gotten the better end of the deal and left delighted with the outcome.

I was reminded of how much I enjoy a good collaboration. What are your thoughts on collaboration? Are two heads really better than one? What does a productive collaboration entail?

Networking Cultures and Comparisons

2006-02-16T10:11:00.000-06:00

I go to a lot of networking events and I'm always intrigued by the different networking cultures and ways of interacting.

Yesterday, I was a guest at the Midway Chamber of Commerce. There were probably over a 100 people in attendance. This particular event felt a little like culture shock for me. I've gotten used to both attending and orchestrating networking events that dissuade randomly handing out business cards before making a real and authentic connection. At this event, several attendees were passing cards to each other before they started talking. Instead of running for cover, I looked for the fun in it. I decided to have a prize drawing from all the business cards that had been given to me. That was a blast and it gave me a nice way to reconnect with everyone to announce the prize winner and perhaps lead to more communication. It also drew people to approach me who might not have otherwise. People who "get" what we offer and how we might be resources to each other. I found myself enjoying the networking even though it was more conventional than to what I'm accustomed and seek out. I'm happy I attended.

At the Midway Chamber event, St. Paul Police Chief Harrigan spoke about how character is most important to the quality of one's job. He talked about this in terms of supervising police. It's rare that a police officer is hired for not being able to properly write a report. The real problems come from having poor character for the job. It made me think about networking. Would I rather refer someone who had a lot of training but had poor character or someone with less training but initiative and character? I suppose it depends on the type of work (I'd prefer a highly trained brain surgeon). In general, when I give a referral the things I want to make sure of are: 1) that this person responsible and responsive, 2) is a good communicator, 3) has integrity and is honest about everything including capabilities, 4) will do a great job. Notice that I included that it is very important that the person do a good job. But the things I thought of first were all about character. When I looked at the St. Paul Police website, I found this quote:
“...Excellence, Ethics, Empathy, and Education!”-Chief John M. Harrington. I again notice that character, quality and training all go hand in hand with what he states as important.

What do you think? When you are going to give a referral, what weight do you give to character, quality and training? Are you able to determine these things by hearing an elevator speech about the other person's business? Or does it take something more to get a sense of these things?

A couple weeks ago, Lee Truer and I were hired to facilitate networking for the Cultural Creatives Network. This was a smaller group, between 20-24 in attendance. The networking activities got attendees really connecting with each other. I could tell that supportive, caring, working relationships were being established. Though there were less people in attendance, it's more likely that these participants will be able to give authentic referrals because they were able to get a good look into each other's character and what they bring to their work. This style of networking is what I'm personally drawn to since authenticity and strength of character are some of my core values.

Your own core values and character will shape the type of networking you prefer. When you seek networking opportunities, keep this in mind. It's a nice challenge to try out different ways of networking but it's also comforting when you find the networking that works best for you and helps you shine.

Happy networking!

Prioritizing time together

2006-02-14T21:22:00.000-06:00

On most Tuesdays, my daughter doesn't have preschool and so she is home with me. There have been plenty of Tuesdays where I've had a hard time setting aside work, trying to sneak it in while she's occupied playing. Today was different. I put her first. Maybe it was because it was Valentine's Day or maybe it was because I've chosen to remember all that I love about my work. (Nudge to myself--Wasn't having more time with family one of the perks I'd wanted when I started this business?) My goal for the day was to focus on being together and not be distracted by the call of things I need to do for work. We took a leisurely walk to the grocery store, made a fancy heart-shaped cake (from scratch and decorated even!) and even heart-shaped home-made pizzas for dinner. Sure, I had a little work that needed to be done but I did it differently. The few e-mails I needed to send, I did while holding my daughter on my lap. A couple other things (like this blog) I waited to do after bedtime. Today felt really good, knowing that I was both honoring our time together and one of the reasons I've chosen to have my own business.

What are you choosing or remembering to prioritize?

Upsize Lifelines article in newstands!

2006-02-05T15:03:00.000-06:00

My business lifeline, Jean Hanson and I were profiled in the February issue of Upsize Magazine (I wrote all Upsize Lifelines Awards Ceremony in the Feb. 1 blog-post). The article is about the value of a Virtual Assistant (Jean) to a small business (Purple Crayon Factory). Check it out on page 10 or by clicking here. You say you don't subscribe to Upsize? Here's your chance, for a limited time Upsize is offering a free subscription of 30 issues ($54 value), see the header on the Upsize homepage. Now, we just have to see about getting on the cover. ;)

Nurturing Friendship and Creativity

2006-02-04T22:24:00.000-06:00

Tonight, I was honored to be a guest on the Jill Spiegel show on FM107. We spoke about creativity and friendship. This is what we talked about:

-Through a creative process, we let go of some of barriers and communication tends to flow more naturally and deeply. For example, I've found it really easy to get to know other women while doing beadwork. Our hands are occupied and it allows time for silence, without it being awkward. This same phenomenon happens in our Creativity and Tea sessions, allowing for easy, unintimidating networking.

-As a busy woman, I desire spending time in friendships but also like it when I feel I'm accomplishing something. By creating with friends, I'm able to nurture friendships, have fun, be inspired and support each other in our creativity all at the same time.

-Through creative processes, we express ourselves. We express our emotions, our thoughts that need to come out or even simply our aesthetics. We get to know each other more deeply and appreciate each other more fully.

-A lovely byproduct is that we also remember each other by what we have created. When I look at a piece I created while I was with friends, I not only see what I made, I recall the wonderful time we shared together and that positive energy infuses the piece.

-Once a month, I host an open creativity studio called Creativity and Tea. It's a time to come together, relax, play with creative materials. I serve tea and chocolate and do all the clean up. I want everyone there to feel like a kid again. I'm lucky because I get to be in a wonderful environment, inspire creativity and absorb all the positive energy in the room. I always leave glowing. I hear time and again from attendees that they really enjoy the connections they make. Informal networking naturally bubbles up during these sessions and often they follow up by working together in various ways.

-I'm also fortunate to be in a group called sister i, in which we support each other on our creative goals. And of course, we have developed powerful friendships with each other through this process.

Jill Spiegel shared about "walking in the direction that gives you energy" and staying "true to yourself and walk your own dream". I notice that whenever things start feeling difficult and draining, it's just a nudge to let me know I'm straying from my path. Jill gave exceptional advice to her listeners about paying attention to synchronicities, what feels easy and what people tell you you're great at to get on the path that feeds your passion.

What is a Virtual Assistant? A VA is a Business Lifeline

2006-02-01T16:29:00.000-06:00

I nominated our Virtual Assistant, Jean Hanson for Upsize Magazine's Lifelines award. She was one of seven selected and I'm so happy that she's being publicly recognized for her outstanding work. Here is a picture of Jean and me at the awards ceremony yesterday.

Click here if I've got you wondering "What is a VA (Virtual Assistant)?"

The day I was referred to Jean Hanson was the day my business gained momentum. I decided to make an investment in the growth of my business by partnering with a VA who could take over some of the marketing projects I was handling myself. Jean skillfully stepped in, freed up my time from these projects, and inspired me to take steps I would not have felt ready to otherwise. She is worlds more than a task-keeper – she gets the big picture of what I’m trying to do with my business and helps me move towards my goals by brainstorming ideas and implementing a plan.

If you are a small business owner or solo entrepreneur and could use some assistance but aren't able to hire a part or full-time employee, I recommend you consider a VA. Many of us small business owners try to do everything under the sun and then run out of steam. My VA, Jean's assistance gives me more time to hold my vision and do what I'm good and passionate about.

What is my lesson from working with Jean? “As an entrepreneur, you can do anything, but in order to grow your business, you simply can’t do everything!”

Thank you and congratulations, Jean!

Mom-Camp Rochester

2006-01-30T22:31:00.000-06:00

What do you get when 350 mothers choose to come together for a weekend of pampering and great breakout sessions? A big smile that lasts two days. That's what happened for me at the Rochester Mom-Camp this weekend. It really was beautiful to see so many women taking some time out for themselves. I'm sure that every one of them went home feeling more in balance and rejuvenated.

I stayed at the Kahler Grand hotel and only got a few hours of sleep on Friday night. That was because the women in the rooms on either side of me were having so much fun with their evening of independence. Every time I'd begin to doze off, a ripple of laughter would wake me. I was happy for them and wasn't about to ruin their fun. I justified my lack of sleep, telling myself that if I was with their rooms I'd be having just as much of a good time.

Our facilitator, Becca Pournoor led the session on "Your Ideal Sexual Life: It's All About Communication." She offered the same session at Mom-Camp Twin Cities this fall. It was so well received, they asked us to bring it to Rochester. Again, it was a hit and the participants were happy to have a place to ask their questions and openly communicate. Laurie Aarchbold, the organizer of the Rochester Mom-Camp jokingly said they could have easily offered just three sessions and kept everyone happy; "Ideal Sexual Life," "How to Look Like a Million" and something on how to make a million. Becca's session filled once again and Mom-Camp sold out at 350.

I tabled in the Canteen area and met so many lovely and interesting women. I look forward to going back to Rochester with our sessions and staying involved with Mom-Camp. I left feeling just as inspired as all the campers.

Free and Fun Career Strengths Assessment

2006-01-21T19:18:00.000-06:00

I just completed a fun, free and easy career interests assessment at www.assessment.com. They provide you with an amazing amount of information. The teaser is that you'll want to purchase more information from them. A cool thing about this assessment is that it words your characteristics in a way that could easily be used in a cover letter or resume. I was affirmed by all my results that my job is the best fit there could be for me. I love what I do.

Here's one of the excerpts that stood out for me from my assessment:
'"Mentor: a trusted counselor or guide." Teresa is interested in and consciously prefers to consider the existence, meaning, purpose, potential, and destiny of mankind, people, persons, and self; with self-felt, self-accepted responsibility to influence and/or cause good, growth, and gain in the lives of all concerned. Teresa has intuition and philosophical curiosity that causes an awareness of personality, intentions, emotions, ethics, values, and moods of other persons, and of self. By itself, this is not benevolence. If Teresa is highly motivated for benevolent activities, this trait is compulsively central to personal and vocational activities. If there is a lack of personal motivation, then the preference for consideration tends to be more philosophical or academic in nature, but still service oriented.'

I like how it sums up information about you almost as someone providing a referral for you. If you're not already in your "dream job" maybe this will give you a glimpse into what that would look like. Try it out and have fun!

Is Networking a Waste of Time?

2006-01-18T14:38:00.000-06:00

Last Thursday, - at a networking event I should add ;) - we had a great presentation by Jill Konrath on Selling to Big Companies. She was insightful, open and honest. I'm still thinking about a lot of what she shared and I may blog about it more. I bought her book, Selling to Big Companies and started skimming through it. Because I love networking, I was stopped in my tracks when I saw the heading, "Why Most Networking is a Waste of Time."

I read on and found that I actually agreed with what she shared. Big company decision makers don't attend usually general networking events. She also pointed out that in most networking, the likelihood of a good referral is pretty low. Why would someone you just met and hasn't personally experienced your work recommend you to their clients? Basically, she says the time and energy put into general networking could be better directed if you're really looking to build clientele.

So what does this mean for a natural networker such as myself? I talked with Mary Kay DuChene from Mom-Camp about this and we had a great discussion. As connector types, we go about networking as a way to develop supportive relationships or to see what others need and then connect them to someone who can help. (It's true, we enjoy supporting others even when there's no financial gain for us.) Whenever I've facilitated networking events, I've taken the approach of creating an environment where attendees can easily create meaningful connections and be supported in their work. Mary Kay and I talked about how the word "connection" has a warmer connotation. The word networking can convey an image of a bunch of people trying to sell themselves, not necessarily being interested in helping to promote the work of others. We both agreed that there are plenty of networking events that are worth it. It's valuable if you are creating real connections either by the way you communicate, attending regularly and developing collegial alliances in which you do have the confidence to provide good referrals to each other. It's also worth it if the topic of the networking session interests you and brings people together in a supportive way. I'm going to mill this question over some more because it will affect the way that I approach and talk about the networking I do.

What do you think? Is general networking a waste of time? What has been your best networking experience? I invite your comments.

Putting the safety on depression triggers #7 - Less Exercise/Lack of Sun

2006-01-11T12:10:00.000-06:00

Even though we're hearing "Happy New Year!" everywhere we turn, this time of year creates depression for many of us. Each day this week, I've listed some of the triggers I personally experience during this season and followed it with what I'm doing to combat it (I encourage you to make your own list of triggers/remedies):

Trigger: Less exercise now that it's cold out
Remedy: This year I was proactive. I know that I tend to get less active in winter and then feel down. I joined a healthclub and have been working out at least 3 times a week. My doctor will be happy that I've finally listened to her advice. It really does help and I never feel down while I'm exercising. I needed to make it as easy as possible for me to succeed with my new exercise plan. So I selected a club that is only a block away. I get added exercise from walking and there won't be any excuses about the car not starting!

Trigger: Lack of winter sun
Remedy: There's not much I can do about the sun but I can make sure to open window coverings fully. I'll take time to bask in any sunbeams when they do make an appearance. I can also bring in warm light with candles during dinner.

I found making this list helpful and illuminating. As I wrote it, I remembered that in winter is always a down time for me. While I work to keep myself from getting too low, I also recognize that winter is my dormant time for my energy cycle. On many levels, I need this time to shut down a little and regain my energy. Come spring, I'm sure I'll be ready to burst from my seed.

Try making your own list what triggers depression in you. Follow it with remedies for how you can put yourself in safety mode. I hope it's useful to you. Take good care.

Putting the safety on depression triggers #6 - "Techno-Despair"

2006-01-10T16:20:00.000-06:00

Even though we're hearing "Happy New Year!" everywhere we turn, this time of year creates depression for many of us. Each day this week, I'm going to list some of the triggers I personally experience during this season and followed it with what I'm doing to combat it (I encourage you to make your own list of triggers/remedies):

Trigger:"Techno-Despair"
Remedy: I'd planned to write about depression triggers each day for a week. Then I ran into problems connecting with the internet for several days. So now, I'm back to the topic and have another to add to my trigger list. After being on various helplines all weekend, I began to experience "techno-despair" (as termed by Dr. Judith Orloff and I'm sure, countless others). Sometimes I wonder if there is something about me that makes technology go haywire. When this happens, I want to just give up and rid myself of all technology. But being a business owner, that's a tough thing to do. The remedies I used for my "techno-despair" were 1) to remind myself that things would get figured out and get better, 2) I may as well be patient because impatience would just make things worse, 3) convincing myself that a break from technology was a good thing for me (I admit that one was hard to believe, since I was really on the phone and problem-solving on my computer for hours on end with helplines) and 4) reminding myself that usually technology is useful and not such a headache.

Putting the safety on depression triggers #5 - Failed Goals

2006-01-06T11:58:00.000-06:00

Putting the safety on depression triggers #4 - Too Much Noise and Hubbub

2006-01-05T16:41:00.000-06:00

Even though we're hearing "Happy New Year!" everywhere we turn, this time of year creates depression for many of us. Each day this week, I'm going to list some of the triggers I personally experience during this season and followed it with what I'm doing to combat it (I encourage you to make your own list of triggers/remedies):

Trigger: Too much noise and hubbub
Remedy: As a sensitive person, I get overwhelmed when there is a lot of noise or too many distractions. When I'm overwhelmed, it's hard to feel centered and positive. My kids have had two weeks off from school and they they are either making noise, laughing, making demands or jumping around constantly. As much as I can, I look at the bright side. "Wow, they are so happy to play together!" "How cute; they like to pretend they are wild animals!" But I do get saturated, even when it's all happy noise. So keeping the TV to a minimum, taking occasional breaks to be alone and enjoying the quiet while they sleep are all remedies. I also made sure to give them a 'last call' on the New Year's noisemakers to get it out of their systems. And then into the trash they went!

Putting the safety on depression triggers #3 - Sluggish from Unhealthy Eating

2006-01-04T12:23:00.000-06:00

Putting the safety on depression triggers #2 - Grief for Loved Ones Lost

2006-01-03T09:00:00.000-06:00

Putting the safety on depression triggers #1 - Post-Holiday Let Down

2006-01-02T19:06:00.000-06:00

Envision Your Success in 2006!

2005-12-21T15:21:00.000-06:00

Last week, I presented at the Twin Cities e-Women network luncheon. I facilitated a tailored version of our Envision Your Ideal Future, titled "Success in 2006!" Through guided imagery, creative journaling and conversation, participants were able to see more clearly what success would look and feel like for them in the coming year. The energy of the 40 women in the room was powerful and moving. As they shared the highlights of what they discovered (and some of their surprises) they were truly connecting with each other. These types of experiences always remind me of why I do what I do. Yes, the mission is for participants to pursue their ideal lives but underlying that, my passion is to help people authentically connect to each other and what is important for them. The very next day, I received feedback from a few of the women about how clear they got about what they want their work schedules to be like in the coming year. Since that seems to be a common theme, take a moment to think about your own schedule.

Read through this and then try it with your eyes closed:
-Take several deep breaths and get comfortable
-Imagine looking at your calendar and being delighted by what you see
-Notice if your calendar is full, highly scheduled or structured or open for spontaneity
-What activities on your calendar are you most looking forward to?
-Take more deep breaths and slowly open your eyes
-Reflect upon this over the course of the day and see what comes up for you.

I wish you success, however that looks and feels like for you, in 2006!

3 tips for when business feels slow

2005-12-21T14:58:00.000-06:00

When work for an entrepreneur slows down, it often seems like forever. One of my colleagues was feeling down that she didn't have much work coming in. I reminded her just a month prior, she had a wealth of jobs coming in. I go through these same feelings myself and hear the same thing from the other entrepreneurs I know.

It's much like being in a valley. When we are in the valley the mountains seem so distant and unattainable (even if we've just come down from one). We have to be deliberate to not keep our line of vision only on the valley floor.

Alternatively, when we are at the peak of the mountain, we either 1) feel exhilarated, 2) feel exhausted from the climb or 3) worry that we might not have it in us to climb another mountain or 4) an combination of these feelings.

What helps:
1) Affirmation by remembering the mountains you've scaled. Look back through your calendar (or journal) and see how much you've accomplished. It's easy to forget!
2) Stay fit and ready for the climb ahead. Work on your marketing plan. Connect with former clients. Work on those projects you'd been wishing you'd have the time for. Focus on what is working and what is already waiting for you on the horizon.
3) Don't pitch a permanent campsite in the valley. Do realize that it's necessary and valuable to be in the valley. It's all part of the cycle of life and work. This is where you have a chance to reflect and regain your energy. Do your best to breathe inand enjoy the fresh valley air while you scope out the next mountains you want to climb. It's closer than you think.

Getting Organized - tips from Mary'n Hallock

2005-12-13T22:46:00.000-06:00

Last week, I went to another of Mary'n's workshops titled "Get Organized!" It was the perfect follow up to her "Putting Off Procrastination" session. This is what I learned and will be applying:

1) The value of tickler files to keep projects on track (I have one but fell out of practice using it. I'm getting back into the groove. Basically it's having monthly files and dated 1-31 files so that it's easy to plug in project notes, invitations, etc. by month. And when you move into a new month, you sort the inserts from the month file into the appropriate date files. It sounds more complicated than it is. For someone visually oriented like me, I need to have these files right in sight. They don't take up much room so they are in a vertical holder on my desk.)

2) The biggest time waster in organizations is...meetings. (Most meetings don't NEED to happen and there are other ways to share the information. Many happen out of habit, include more people than is necessary for the relevance of what is being discussed or are poorly run. I thought about this as I was planning our facilitators meeting for later in the week. The goal of our quarterly meetings has been to get everyone on the same page with updates and announcements, gather input for future direction, answer questions and help the facilitators get to know each other so they can provide cross-support. Upon reflection, not all of the meetings accomplish this. If someone misses the meeting, the information still needs to be shared so it's not necessarily a timesaver. We noticed that our best meetings have been when there was work that we were doing together or strategizing. In other words, a sense of urgency and a clear idea of "what's in it for them." So I'll keep this in mind as to whether/how we continue our quarterly meetings.)

3) E-mail keeps you from getting organized. If you check e-mail first thing in the morning and then throughout the day, it keeps you from getting a handle of what needs to get done and the priority of each of your tasks. E-mails feel urgent even when they are not. They can wait an hour or two while you organize your day and set upon the most important tasks. (This is a hard habit for me to break but having this awareness has gotten me to check it less.)

I hope Mary'n's tips are helpful for you. For more of her tips, check out her website at Painless Paper Cut.

From Ashley:

2005-12-08T12:42:00.000-06:00

Hello Everyone!
I would just like to take this time to introduce myself, as the new short-term intern for Purple Crayon Factory. My name is Ashley Brabec, a native Minnesotan who loves to be outdoors. I have just recently graduated fom Gustavus Adolphus College this past May, with degrees in Sociology and Anthropology...and my lovely little English minor.

Throughout my life I have learned and been shaped by the very work you all do at Purple Crayon Facatory, only in my experience I was given this things through a summer camp. Camp Eagle Ridge is a boys and girls summer leadership camp. The camp's emphasis is based around training young people to become leaders. For an hour each morning the campers have one of 40 orignal workshops (newly designed each year by the camp staff). All the workshops are focused on the characteristics that are found in a leader (for example: listening, problem-solving, teambuilding). The experience as a child was so life-changing that when I was old enough I began to work there every summer, in order to further instill the gift that I received to other children. This summer will be my sixth year on staff. I first began as the oldest girls' counselor, working with girls aged 15-16. As of last year I was promoted to a more administrative position, Counselor In Training (C.I.T) Director. My responsibilities now include training 16 and 17 year olds to become counselors, designing cirriculum and teaching them everyday. I have much experience in designing and teaching leadership workshops for 8 to 17 years old.

I just recently returned from a seasonal position in Williams Bay, Wisconsin at Aurora University: George Williams Campus. I began to work with the OWLS (Outdoor Wisconsin Leadership Synergies) Program, that specializes teambuilding and further growth of leadership skills, by utilizing low and high ropes courses, climbing tower, and other teambuilding initiatives with 8th graders through adult and corporate levels. Needless to say it's quite a funny sight to watch a group from IBM up on the high ropes course! It was amazing to see the impact that took place when activities are linked to not only school or work, but also to general life lessons (compromise, working together, goal-setting, and planning).

Working with Teresa and Purple Crayon Factory will be an opporunity for me to learn more about the business side instead of just the play side. I am so excited to learn about what it's like to run a business in this particular field, promotion, marketing, and in general how the facilitators within the company create and deliver their powerful messages.

I look forward to meeting and working with you all. Also you should know that I am willing to do assistant work for $10 an hour, feel free to give me a call about that or anything (612) 558-9951. Thank you and have a great day!

~Ashley

Putting Off Procrastination

2005-12-05T22:35:00.000-06:00

I've made leaps and bounds in the last few weeks of getting my office organized again. But I have to admit that I'm still way behind on my filing and record keeping. The piles just seem to grow and grow. I now have a large box of old papers to go through as well as full "to file" and "to enter" bins on my desk. Whenever I look at the piles or step around the box, I feel a twinge of incompetence because I can't muster the energy to figure out what to do with all the papers.

For a boost of motivation I participated in our facilitator, Mary'n Hallock's session, "Putting Off Procrastination" that she presented for Minnesota Women of Today on Saturday. Here is just a little of all that I learned (with my thoughts in italics):

1) Of everything we file, we only look at 20% (or less) of it again. So if I'm never going to look at the other 80%, should I be stressing out so much about filing things away perfectly or even keeping much of it?

2) When we feel overwhelmed with everything we need to do, we often set ourselves up with monumental expectations for what we can get done. With such high expectations, we usually can't achieve them and then end up feeling worse. Instead of thinking that I should devote several full days to the task, I'd be better off scheduling 15-30 minutes every week. Yes, scheduling it as sacred time on my calendar. And being the extrovert I am, I should consider having someone over to either help me or to just have tea with me while I do the work. It would certainly make it more enjoyable and make me more likely to follow through if someone else is planning on it. As soon as I'm done with today's blog, I'm getting this on my calendar!

3) Plan to give yourself an appropriate reward for completing the task. Meaning if it's a huge task, I should award myself with more than just a nice cup of coffee. And you reward yourself immediately to get accustomed to feeling the real benefits of accomplishment. Consider that you wouldn't make a child wait and wait to be rewarded for a great accomplishment. Hmm, what can I reward myself with for getting through enormous stacks of paper? A massage is sounding pretty good to me, to counter the stress of the filing.

Tomorrow, I'll be at Mary'n's "Get Organized" workshop. I'm looking forward to the added inspiration to get me going. If you are looking for some help in getting organized or putting off procrastination, Mary'n has useful articles on her resource page. Good luck to you (and to me) as we get our papers and offices back into shape!

New energy with our new intern!

2005-12-02T11:40:00.000-06:00

I'm excited that we've brought Ashley Brabec aboard as our new intern. She is delightful, insightful and helpful. Yesterday was her first day helping us with a networking event. She jumped right in with getting things ready, engaging the participants, closing up and debriefing. Ashley comes to us with lots of her own experience designing curriculum and facilitating leadership and teambuilding sessions for youth through adults in ropes and wilderness settings. We are sure to learn a lot from each other. Welcome Ashley!

"As an entrepreneur you can do anything but you can't do everything!"

2005-11-29T23:06:00.000-06:00

I've taken the plunge and hired publicist Mary Lower from the Sterling Cross Communications agency. I'm excited for what will unfold. While Mary and I were meeting yesterday, we discussed the media I'd like to see Purple Crayon Factory in. I said that I really thought we'd be in Upsize this coming year. I mentioned that I'd sent in an Upsize Lifelines Award nomination for our virtual assistant, Jean Hanson but I hadn't heard from them so doubted we were in the running. Lo and behold, when I returned from the meeting I had a message from Beth Ewen, Upsize editor saying she'd mailed us a congratulations letter weeks before but it had been misaddressed and returned. I love synchronicity! Beth said she'll be calling me next week for an interview. The article will be to honor Jean for being my business lifeline but it will still be a nice mention. (I've raved about Jean earlier in this blog. In the nomination I shared how Jean has helped me to really move PCF forward and that what I've learned from working with Jean is, "As an entrepreneur you can do anything but you can't do everything!" Heeding that advice, that's why I realized I needed a publicist at this stage and that it would be very helpful to have an intern. More about that later!

Staying focused

2005-11-08T23:09:00.000-06:00

On Sunday, I facilitated my largest session to date for a group of almost 300. This is 5 times the largest size I've ever facilitated. The session was Treat Yourself to Treasured Holidays, a tailored version of our Envision Your Ideal Future workshop. It was part of a fundraiser for the Jeremiah Program that was orchestrated by Zonta International. I'm happy to say that it went great but not without a bout of anxiety. Each night for the previous two weeks, I'd have bad dreams that I forgot something very important and botched the whole thing. Every morning, I'd have to replace those thoughts with affirmations that I'd do my best, stay sincere and it would all turn out.

While I was presenting, there were a couple of tools that I used to help myself stay focused:
1) I found several faces that were obviously very engaged and appreciative. Each time I felt my confidence slipping, I'd look back at one of these faces for encouragement and to regain my strength.
2) I reminded myself to breathe and allow pauses regularly.
3) I kept thinking the word "trust" to help myself trust that I was doing the best I could.

It was truly a gift to have this experience. I was touched to be in the presence of so many, helping them connect with each other and contemplate how they'd like to be mindful during their holidays. And I learned so much, myself.

Meaningful Networking

2005-09-26T22:56:00.000-05:00

Last week, we had a blast facilitating interactive networking stations at the Minnesota Women's Press Directory networking event. We set up the stations with fun, simple guided activities for participants to have meaningful interactions beyond just trading business cards. It was a pure joy to behold. Participants were really talking and getting excited by each other's work. Collegial and client relationships were being formed through real conversation and connecting. Numerous participants commented that this was the first time they actually enjoyed networking.

What was different? We suggested open-ended questions for them to talk about what was near and dear to their hearts with their work. We set a tone that made it easy for them to share about the personality of their work. And we encouraged them to offer each other continued networking, support and sampling of each other's services. All told, we assisted their opening up about why they do their work and what keeps them motivated. This led to real and meaningful connections.

Many of us tend to set our personality aside when we network. But personality is what makes us click more naturally with others. Have you ever been to a networking event that felt almost painful? I've been in several where it seemed everyone wanted to talk and get leads but few were sincere in really listening and supporting each other. What was missing in the networking was their personality, story and passion. Sure, they shared what they do and who they serve (and then madly passed out business cards). But the spark (other than their eagerness to sell) was hidden.

I don't know about you, but I'm much more inclined to make a referral or provide business to someone I feel a connection to. For example, I might learn that Jan works for XYZ Consulting to "get great results" for her clients. This is well and good. But when I learn that Jan was drawn to work with XYZ Consulting after desperately searching for this type of service herself, a story unfolds; I become more interested and suddenly want to help her along with her success. By getting a sense of her personality, I also am better able to identify what type of client would be a great fit for her.

As we facilitated the event, we were fortunate in another regard. We each had a role to play. That meant that each of our facilitators met (or was visible to) nearly everyone at the event. It made it easy for us to easily connect and draw in people we might not have otherwise met. At the next networking event you plan to attend, consider volunteering to help out. You might offer to help check people in or staff the prize drawing. When you combine having a role to play, sharing your personality and being genuinely interested in hearing and supporting each other, you are sure to have a meaningful and ideal way to connect.

Happy networking!

A Monarch Butterfly- the pain and beauty of transformation

2005-08-31T22:50:00.000-05:00

I experienced the miracle of watching a Monarch caterpillar turn into a chrysalis. It literally took my breath away. My son had found the caterpillar at my brother's and asked to keep it until it turns into a butterfly. We gathered fresh milkweed leaves each day and watched her chomp away and then take rests (her rests were so deep, my son worried she'd died). Last night she crawled to the top of her container and hung upside down. Her head shook a bit and it would be easy to think she was sick or dying. This morning she was absolutely still. In the afternoon I was shocked to see a beautiful chrysalis in place of the caterpillar. I couldn't believe my eyes and wondered how this all happened. I could see that the shell of her head had detached and was laying on a twig. I found a sweet website where a young girl made an imovie showing the stages of a monarch from egg to butterfly: Monarch Butterfly imovie. It was incredible seeing how that transformation happened. The caterpillar's skin, splits open and what looks like an unpeeled grape begins to emerge--it seems fatter than the caterpillar had been. And then the unseemly blob becomes a gorgeous delicate chrysalis.

Experiencing this today became strengthened an anology for me about the pain and beauty in transformation. These are my thoughts:

-The Monarch sought the nourishment she needed (milkweed) and gave herself plenty of rest.
-She found a place that felt safe and then settled in and trusted she'd be okay.
-She appeared to be dying or ill just before her transformation. And things also got messy before they became stunning. This fits well with what colleagues have said about how things often get much more difficult before opening up and become easier.
-As an observer, I didn't know exactly what she was going through and could have easily misinterpreted some of her actions (I'm so glad I didn't try to "wake" her when she was ready to transform). She needed space and time of her own.
-Everything held inside of the lovely striped caterpillar body literally burst out. I imagine the tightness she must have felt and associate this with the tension our bodies feel when we are stressed and going through change.
-She shed a big piece of her previous identity. Her vulnerability in those moments between caterpillar to chrysalis was immense but necessary.
-She's built a layer of protection for herself to get through this next step.
-The chrysalis now appears serene but I imagine there's an awful lot going on inside. Splendid wings are being created that will carry her to new vistas she'd never have been able to reach as a caterpillar.

This has been deeply symbolic for me and I'm sure new interpretations will unfold as I observe this transformation. It really is incredible. If you haven't observed a caterpillar becoming a butterfly, I hope you'll watch the movie to get a sense of how wondrous it is.

2005-07-13T00:37:00.000-05:00

At last week's WELLmet networking session, one of the participants shared how her professional confidence had transitioned throughout the meeting.

She'd been drawn to the professional group in order to form collegial relationships with others in the fields of wellness, creative and spiritual development. When she first arrived she was very excited for the opportunity. During introductions, she began to second guess herself. There were others in the group who did similar aspects to her work (writing a book, facilitating retreats, life coaching...). She began to feel deflated and that her work wasn't as unique as she'd like to think. After meeting up with the other participants, her excitement returned. What happened? She noticed several things:
1) While other's work might be similar, their styles/motivations/experiences/key audiences had unique differences from her own.
2) With an attitude of abundance, she realized there was more than enough room to be supportive of one another's work
3) And most importantly, she said, having connected with others doing similar work affirms that the work is necessary and needs to be in the world. (For example: Life coaching is a relatively new concept. As more and more people see the benefits of coaching--many go into the field. It now becomes a matter of identifying the ideal fit between a coach and client. So focusing on ones' own style/motivations/experiences and key audience is where a coach's services become unique).

Of course, she also remembered that she had been drawn to the event to be surrounded by supportive colleagues in similar fields. I was happy she shared this realization. I don't have a competitive nature but I have been in situations where I've felt deflated in the same way and notice when it happens for others. After she shared this insight with the group, there was a collective, relieved sigh--indicating that we all shared this feeling and were relieved to be reminded of the true positives of connecting with those in similar fields.

Hot Fun in the Summertime

2005-07-05T21:44:00.000-05:00

Aaah, picking and eating fresh raspberries, discovering bugs you've never seen before, seeing a bald eagle up close, connecting with friends at backyard BBQs, receiving compliments on a recipe you've just tried for the first time, playing in dirt and getting so filthy you leave a ring in the tub, teaching a child to ride a bike without training wheels while cheering and leaping, camping somewhere you haven't ventured before and feeling like an explorer, perching on a summit to be surrounded by fireworks illuminating various parts of the city, listening to rain and feeling it cool a hot summer night, trying to fit in as many adventures as you can before summer slips away...
All being said, summer has been great and it's not even half over. Happy Summer!

Cheap change

2005-06-22T13:54:00.000-05:00

You've heard it before, about the wonders a haircut or a new coat of paint can do for your spirits. Last week, I did just this. I walked into one of those inexpensive cut n' go salons and had over 6 inches taken off. Not only did I leave with my hair and new look feeling lighter, I felt lighter all over and ready for summer

To lift our spirits even more, I decided to follow through on painting our bedroom as a gift for my husband's birthday. This was something we've been wanting to do for years. I did all the prep, painting and de-cluttering and surprised him with the end result. He was delighted by the change and especially happy that I put the thought and energy into completing it.

We'd had the desired color picked out a couple of years ago and we still really liked the color. I went into a paint liquidation store and was able to find a gallon of the same pre-mixed color for only $5! If you're looking for a quick room change to brighten your spirits, I highly recommend looking at paint that had been rejected by another customer for not being a perfect match to what they wanted. This works especially great if you are flexible or completely open to being inspired by what you find. Many home improvement stores have a section of rejected pre-mixed paint--stop and check that out first before you pay a lot more to have something mixed just for you. Even if you don't find what you'd like, it's fun to see what colors are available.

As my studiomate, Gwen Hauser said, "The bedroom is a perfect place to play with color, add sparkle, make it exactly the private haven you want it to be. The color doesn't need to please anyone but those whose bedroom it is." (For those of you who don't know Gwen, she is a highly talented artistic painter, faux finisher, muralist. She helped pick out the range of colors for our Minneapolis wellness studio. She's been featured in numerous design magazines. She can be reached at: 651-303-2377. I highly recommend her work.)

I hope this has inspired you to make a simple, fun and inexpensive transformation in your life.

Cheers to cheap change!

Being down to know you're up

2005-06-13T23:08:00.000-05:00

You know the feeling...everything feels like it's going wrong, all at once. I've been experiencing this lately; husband missing lots of work because of back injury, my car dying, too many bills. Of course, I know that not everything is wrong. Many, many things are right but the things that are wrong shadow what's going right.

What helps to shake me out of the shadows? Realizing how much we are really supported and how good we've got it. Friends, colleagues, family--stepping in to show us we are cared for, encouraging us along. It's more comfortable and habit to say, "We've got it covered. I'll figure it out. Thanks for your offer but we'll be okay." But I'm reminded time and time again that when someone offers their support, they almost always truly want to offer it. It helps them to feel needed, of value, contributing to the greater good.

And you know what else I notice when things aren't going well? That soon after, when life is going better, I appreciate it so much. It's just like when you get so hungry that when you finally sit down to the most mundane meal, it tastes exquisite.

Riding the raft

2005-05-16T00:26:00.000-05:00

Last week, my sister i group met (www.sisteri.com). We get together every two weeks to support each other on our creative goals. Once a season, one of us shares on our creative pursuit and it was my turn. I shared about my vision for my creative pursuit with Purple Crayon Factory and how it is coming along. As part of the meeting, I shared about how the analogy of river rafting felt important to understanding the cycle of my work and where I'm at in this cycle--you may resonate with it.

In the early part of our meeting, we journaled using the word "river" as our inspiration. As I wrote, I reflected on how my journey with PCF feels similar to riding a raft in a beautiful, exciting river. I noted that at the moment, I feel the excitement (and fear) of being in big rapids. These big rapids are: 1) growing PCF financially and 2) taking big leaps with PCF (hiring an assistant, renting space...). I realized that while I feel very challenged I also feel a strong sense of assurance. Assurance in knowing that I've fortunate to have found my course in this river, to know that this the river I want to be in, experiencing complete flow in this work. And assurance from the abundance of competent "river guides" that I am blessed to have as support for the journey of my "raft" in life. As in river rafting, I cannot sit idly by while the guides navigate the waters for me. I have to be focused, sharp, acting as part of a team, leading/steering when it's my responsibility, listening and following directions when it takes another's expertise when I need my own bolstered. While I'm in the midst of these rapids, I have faith that in the river ahead, these rapids will quiet and there will be periods of tranquility alternating with churning waters. There's no turning back, I wanted to travel this river and we're doing it--and having an exciting time with it!

Entering the world of blog

2005-05-11T12:21:00.000-05:00

My Virtual Assistant, Jean suggested we start a blog. So here we are, new to this concept and ready to learn. Having a virtual assistant has been incredibly helpful for our business. We hired Jean last fall. Things that I thought were a pipe dream or years away are already happening. She has saved me over a $1000 by setting up an automatic subscriber service for our newsletter and being available each month to keep our website fresh. I could go on an on about why I'm glad we hired a V.A., as they're called. Jean's website is www.vaofficesolution.com. She has a listing on their of reasons to hire a V.A. She's currently not accepting new clients but she has links to other V.A. sites that would help you connect with one.