Tuesday, December 26, 2006

A New Year, A New Beginning

By Sonya, PCF's fall 06 intern

With the arrival of the New Year, it is the perfect time to reflect on what has brought us to where we are now and what lies on the road ahead. It is a good time to make peace with ourselves and to remember that "regrets are just lessons we haven't learned yet." Embrace all of the mistakes we have made and approach the New Year as a fresh start, an opportunity to do what we might have been afraid to do in the past, and a time to step boldly into our own futures.

I will be returning to The College of Saint Catherine next semester as a Senior, and while this year may mark the end of one phase of my life, it will also be a time of looking ahead and really choosing the direction that my life will take me. Interning for The Purple Crayon factory has been instrumental in helping me set my course towards a life as a therapist. While I have learned many invaluable lessons in college classrooms, it is another thing entirely to meet people who are really working in the health and wellness industry, to see where they work, or more importantly, to learn why they do what they do. I believe most would agree that it has to do with a desire to help others improve their quality of life, to spread joy, and to reassure people of the power they have. I have always known that I wanted to offer people this kind of service, but only a few years ago, this would have seemed like an impossibility. When I was supposed to enter my junior year of high school, a series of bad experiences led me to choose not to return to school. Even after my life began to improve, I floundered and felt like I had very few opportunities available to me and even less direction in my life. I truly believed that I would never be able to pull myself out of the stereotypical role of "high school drop out." Obtaining my GED gave me no sense of accomplishment because I was still certain that I would never be able to reach my goals.

Shortly after I turned eighteen, I had something like an epiphany. I realized that, in spite of the temptation to point fingers and place blame, quitting school had ultimately been my choice. No one had gotten me into this mess but myself, and nobody but myself was going to pick me up and set me on my feet again. It was an unsettling feeling to realize that I was entirely on my own, but it also led me to feel empowered. If I was a victim of circumstance, it was because I had made the decision to be a victim. So, I became my own guardian angel. I took a monumental leap and decided to leave my home state of Arizona and come to the only place that was at all familiar. Minnesota was where I had been born, and it seemed like it would be the most appropriate place to be born again. With no real support and no set plan, I enrolled at a community college and gathered around me a network of caring people to help me on my way.Since then, my path has taken many more strange turns and the going hasn't always been easy, but four years later, I find myself on the precipice of graduating from a great college, armed with some amazing experiences that I can't wait to share with others. In my life, I've made many mistakes, and I've learned first-hand the value of a fresh start. A clean slate is something that is never given to you, it is a choice that must be made, a conscious decision to let go and to just jump right in to life. In the coming year, remember the importance of taking chances. You are the only person with the power to change your circumstances!


Wednesday, December 20, 2006

Is there a SANTA CLAUS?

Instead of sugarplums, an acronym danced in my head. Earlier this week, I had a dream in which I was recounting how fortunate I am to know such wonderful, supportive people and how several times, kindnesses have come mysteriously, anonymously or miraculously (just like Santa).

My dream morphed from counting my blessings into my son asking me whether there really is a Santa Claus. In my dream, I remember wanting to capture the spirit of giving, generosity and care and figuring out an acronym that would convey that. When I woke and hopped in the shower that morning, the dream and the acronym came back to me in a flash.

This is what my dream came up with:

Somebody's
Always
Noticing
That
Another

Could
Love
And
Use
Something

That sounds like the spirit of Santa Claus to me!

If you like this, you may share it with others provided you attribute it to: Teresa Thomas-Carroll, copyright 2006. I want to give my dream credit where it's due. :)

Wishing you happy dreaming and holidays!

Friday, December 01, 2006

Using metaphor for your business model

As a visual person, I find imagery and metaphor to be really useful tools for understanding and creating new awareness in my personal and business life. I'm fortunate that in my job, I get to connect with various coaches and wellness practioners who use imagery and metaphor in their work.

When I started my business, I used the metaphor of a vine to visualize how it would grow. I saw that the vine needed a trellis/support to rise off of the ground (just as a business person needs support). I took comfort that with care the vine would flourish and grow. I'd prune the areas that weren't thriving or pulled energy from the rest of the vine. I'd add extra supports to areas that were becoming heavy with flowers. I liked the unpredictability of the vine seeking its way toward the sun, sending tendrils to where it needed to grow.

The metaphor served me well in the early part of my business. But after three years, I needed a new image. I noticed that the vine of my business was sending out lots of energy to the tendrils and new growth and less so to it's core. With the help of a Certified Dream Coach®, Lisa Carmichael (612-280-0734, spagal@mysensaria.com) I was able to find the metaphor that is more useful for me to understand what I need to do for the next stage of growth.

My business is no longer a rambling vine trying to find it's place in the world. Rather, it's established itself as more of a tree. A tree cannot thrive and stand strong unless it's roots run deep and connect to sustenance. The trunk of the tree and it's main branches have to absorb all that they need before the nourishment can create and sustain new growth. I realized that I can no longer send the bulk of my energy to the "leaves/new growth". When I view this as a business model, I see that it's become time to draw energy from the roots (sustenance, purpose, passion, values, connection, integrity), to strengthen the base (core/spirit, self, family, loved ones), nourish the protective bark (support systems), make sure the main branches are tended (key facilitators and clients), while still honoring the twigs and leaves for the energy exchange that happens with them (colleagues and other acquaintances).

I'm both relieved and curious to see how this new model influences the way that I go about my business. And it makes me I wonder what metaphor I'll be using in another three years. Thanks Lisa for getting me to a place to find this useful visual!

What metaphor do you find useful for the way you work and/or live your life?